Confused Does she still want to be with me or not

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Hi all, my partner says she needs time and space and is confused. She doesnt tell me she loves me as much and has withdrawn somewhat, but we can still have a great time together.
She says she is going to mive out soon as it will be better for her to figure things out and focus on herself. But still we can try to work on relationship.
She recently asked me to go in a spud of the moment trip for the weekend.which we have now booked for the following week
Im just confused and feel like im in limbo and dont know what to do. I dont know how she really feels about me, as sometimes i think she is just being nice as to not hurt my feelings

How old are you and how long together? Do you have children?

Hi, thank you for responding.
We are both in our mid 30s, i have a child from a previous relationship.
And have been togther for nearly 4 years now. And lived together for 3. She moved away from her home town to come and live with me. But she misses her home town and wants to go back

How did you meet?

We met online, and spent alot of time getting to know each other through electronic commumication before meeting in person.
We got engaged about 6 months ago, and all seemed great, then a few weeks ago, after she took a trip back home, it all turned around and went bit pear shaped.

I don’t think you are going to get a quick answer to this. It sounds like she is really pondering where she wants her life to lead. Like she loves you but may not want to continue living so far away from her hone and her family.

Would you be able and willing to move?

I do think you have to give her the space, but take care of yourself. Balance her right to this space with your own needs.

She says she is going to mive out soon as it will be better for her to figure things out and focus on herself. But still we can try to work on relationship.

She's full of shit & she's using you.
There may be another man/woman back in her home town, so she's keeping you dangling while she assesses her chances there.

Or there may not be - but she's still keeping you dangling.

You don't need to accept this poor treatment.
She's going to hurt you eventually, & even if your relationship limps on for a while, why would you allow her to engineer the upper hand like this so that you are on constant tenterhooks?
It is absolutely taking the piss to blow hot & cold like this. If I were you I would take back control & tell her to sling her hook. At least that gets the pain out of the way sooner, & stops you from being manipulated.

She's ok with keeping you hanging like this? Did you tell her it's horrible for you? How did she respond?

I would be willing to move but currently unable to as having shared custody of child. I do have the option to remote work, so when i dont have the child i could work from there.

I understand what you are saying and i agree that its not fair to keep me dangling, but i would like to see if we could work through this. Maybe im just not strong enough to let go.
When it feels like its going ok, it does feel great and like there is hope, but then there are the times when it feels like im being kept as a backup or a second option.

Ive always tried to do what is best for the relationship and for her. Ive never been a nasty person, and never wanted to hurt her.

I have mentioned things, and tried to question it all, just to try and find out where i stand. And its usually met with some resistance saying that i just dont get what is going on in her head at the momnent and she needs the time to figure it out.

Healthy relationships do not feel like being on the back foot, ever. Unhealthy relationships feel sometimes good, sometimes bad. Don't stick around with someone who has form for making you feel emotionally confused or dismissed. They're not good for you or your self esteem, however good the good times are.

It's either another person in the background.
Or she's just looking at the future and pondering?
Either way, it's full steam ahead for the exit lounge.
She may or may not come back.

Sorry, but she wants out, she's just finding it hard to say so bluntly.
What does she think she is confused about?

Im not sure to be honest she recently came off her medication for depression and is beomg checked for early menopause, so i get that all of that could add to the situation.
But she just says she is confused about everthing

I did also say to her it sounds like you have made up your mind about the relationship and thatvit soinds like you dont want it anymore, to which she replied i really havent, and she just doesnt know what she wants, except for the fact that she wants to move back to home town

Why do you want to be with someone who isn't sure they want to be with you? Have a think about what you want, rather than focussing on what she wants.

Do you like this situation? Do you enjoy it? Do you want to keep doing it? What you're essentially saying is that you don't want to be with her as she is, you need her to change. You need her to be certain, or you won't be happy. She's not offering what you want.