Struggling with dating after a LTR

[Confused686]

Hi All,
I was in a relationship for 6 years. He left early 2022 after dumping me.
At the start of 2023 I had healed a great deal- new friends, greater social life, no longer struggling to come home to an empty house, focused on me etc.
I have dated quite a few guys- some just after sex, some not feeling a connection etc.
I recently met a lovely guy. We have met 8 times and text each day. He seems very into me.
However, after 8 dates, I'm not sure if I love him. I still think about the ex. I always will care for him I guess (my first relationship). I realise he isn't coming back.
My date stayed with me last night. We are dating exclusively but I felt guilty having him in the home. After 8 dates I guess I don't really know him.
He is planning future dates already and makes lots of compliments.
Any advice? Have you been in a similar situation? Diffuculty moving on...

Why would you live someone after 8 dates? It doesn't sound like you're initiating any dates and he is doing all the work. Do you think you're ready for a romantic relationship?

Why are you even questioning this gayer 8 dates? Has your date said something? Professed love for you? It seems rushed is all, saying 'I love you' isn't necessarily the end goal

I think you're over thinking and you probably just don't like this guy all that much. Just because he's nice and likes you doesn't mean he's right for you.

Thanks. Perhaps I didn't word it well. The guy hasn't moved in, just stayed with me the night. I have stayed over at his before.

My ex left me over a year ago so I don't think I am rushing things. I guess just take things slow and steady. Enjoy it for what it is...

Perhaps you're still healing, also I find, when you find someone else you have feelings for, you forget what you had for an ex, maybe you aren't quite there yet or maybe this isn't going to be the next relationship for you. See how it goes.

It's very early days to be worrying if you love him or not. Just enjoy yourself.

If it deepens into love in time, great.
If it doesn't, well, move on and be glad you've had a good time together.

It's your first relationship after your big split so it may be a rebound but you won't really know that yet. Don't feel guilty about having him in the house - your ex left you, it's your home now.

Thank you

You seem to be expecting a lot after only 8 dates. Just take your time, enjoy getting to know him and chill out.