Been in a 9 month relationship, lots of things are going right.
its my first properly serious relationship (we are both early 30s and it does feel different from dating in my 20s) and all seems to be going in the right direction.
I have some nagging doubts though and I don’t know if these are normal cold feet type nerves or symptomatic of incompatibility.
the good bits. He is kind, gentle, ambitious, gets on with my family and friends who all adore him, I like all his family and friends. We want the same things. We have similar values and senses of humour and have a lot of fun together. In some way I have been happier than I’ve ever been over the last few months. He’s kind without being a pushover and not afraid to tell me if he’s not ok or if I’ve done something wrong (although maybe this has happened once?)
the worries. We both have a silly sense of humour and sometimes this extends to the sicker side of things. We are not afraid to mock ourselves and each other and most things are fair game.
He has a habit of repeating jokes in foreign accents and it’s really starting to get to me. I don’t think anything is meant by it but I find it problematic and unfunny. They are “punch down” accents eg Indian rather than Australian, Canadian (“acceptable”) accents.
We were out with friends recently at a music event and he sang to the crowds in a west indian twang (Mysterious Girl) which wasn’t awful but again makes me feel a little uncomfortable.
I don’t think he is “a racist” per se but I do think these are ignorant things to do and they make me feel uncomfortable.
Is this break-up territory? I don’t know how to handle and feel a little out of my depth here.