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AIBU - husband change his mind

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Hunter2501 · 14/03/2023 18:10

Hi everyone
Can I ask your opinions. DD didn’t get her chosen school so we agreed to move to help her chances. I’ve done all of the work, paid loads of money, done all the paperwork, contacted admissions to see where we stand, he has done nothing. We are due to move on Friday.
He’s now saying he doesn’t want and she should just go to the school she’s been given.
DD is going to be heartbroken and I am hurt and mega annoyed. What do you think?

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Nimbostratus100 · 14/03/2023 18:13

well, moving is a major upheaval, and there is no guarantee you will get that school anyway, and until she starts, you won't know who she is sitting with, and that is what makes or breaks school experience.

I don't think it is a good idea to move a whole family to get one child into a different school, when you don't know yet if she will be happy in the school she has been allocated

MrsDoylesDoily · 14/03/2023 18:14

I think it was a batshit idea in the first place

But obviously he shouldn't be changing his mind at the 11th hour.

TheOpenRoad · 14/03/2023 22:02

It's totally unreasonable to change his mind now. If you have agreed and secured a new place to live, packed up your house, told friends and family, it's too late now. And even if you wanted to, could you even cancel the move? Presumably you have bought/rented acnew house and given notice/sold your current place?

Dotcheck · 14/03/2023 22:06

You were going to move house so your daughter can get into her chosen school? So, she’s 10? And now knows that her disappointment is so colossally important that the entire family will move?
That is the most bonkers idea I’ve ever heard. Dear god you are literally spoiling your child

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Hunter2501 · 14/03/2023 22:26

For context - it’s an area we were always going to move to but it has only recently become financially viable.

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barmycatmum · 15/03/2023 00:03

he is absolutely wrong to agree and then go back on his word. In anything. Just no.

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Hunter2501 · 17/03/2023 17:59

Hi, we were due to move anyway. It’s not just her disappointment, it was the school we wanted for her and agreed that we would move. We were going to be moving to that area eventually anyway as it is more convenient for our work. Moving the entire family, the family size is 3 and has benefits for all of us.
As for your comment about spoiling my child - tell me something small about you so I can make a massive judgement about you and your life. If not, go get a hobby or a life outside of making unnecessarily rude comments to strangers on the internet.

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