Why do I always want to end it?

[Str3bor]

i’ve been with my partner for 3 years and we have 6 kids between us (4 his and 2 mine) and we have recently moved in together. It’s a very different relationship to my previous one and is so good when it’s good but when we argue I just want to end it and run away, why am I like this?

I’m in the process of renting my house out and everytime we argue I backtrack and feel like I need to have it empty as a back up. I know everyone argues but it just makes me so upset that I feel I need to remove myself, how can I stop??

Doesn't sound as if you're ready to give up your space and life to share with a person with 4 kids OP.

How often are these arguments?
What about?
Is he perhaps, having you take on the majority of childcare?

Also, as pp mentions, what was the need to live together? Blending 6 kids was never going to be wise.

I don’t mind the 6 kids and living when them all, that’s not the issue. the arguments are about trivial stuff most of the time but they escalate quite quickly as he’s quick to snap and I react and then I feel like I want to go back to my house like my it’s my safe space. I just feel like it’s over every time and I don’t want to feel like this.

By snap...you mean shout at you?

No wonder you want to leave if so.

Maybe you're not ready to move in. Maybe you're better in a living apart relationship? Blending households is stressful and isn't necessarily the right move.

What do you argue about? When he "snaps", what happens?