There is this pattern of behaviour I notice in myself that I just can't seem to shake. The pattern is that when I'm talking to someone I like I sense when they start to lose interest in the conversation and pull away (usually over text). But when I feel them start to pull away it only seems to make me more interested and I start to try and prolong the conversation, which often wasn't even that good or interesting to begin with! I can feel I'm coming across as a bit needy or desperate but I can't seem to stop myself, and I often humiliate myself in the process over someone whose only real attraction was not giving me validation. It's like the more they withhold the more I want their attention.
I hate this about myself but I notice myself doing it again and again. Does anyone have insights into this and how I can stop doing it?