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If you found your partner somewhere other than OLD....

27 replies

blossomandwonder · 13/03/2023 18:13

I'm 51. Divorced.... and ready to find 'my person' after years of being single.
OLD is just pants.
How did you find your new partner after divorce/separation if it wasn't on the dreaded OLD?

OP posts:
ScottBakula · 13/03/2023 18:19

In the pub!
When I moved I started going to a local pub , the landlord from there use to go to another pub for a drink , my to be DH worked behind the bar there and the landlord thought we would get on so told me to go and chat him up 😁. It worked we got married within 8 months and were very happy together for 18 yrs.

blumppump · 13/03/2023 18:21

At a work conference.

AllOfThemWitches · 13/03/2023 18:23

Pub

PonyPatter44 · 13/03/2023 18:24

A mutual friend from work set us up. DP and I had both worked in the same place a few years before but we didn't know each other. Our mutual friend decided we were perfect for each other, set us up on a date, and she was absolutely right.

Curtainsorblinds · 13/03/2023 18:25

In a taxi - we were both going to the same place. Sounds romantic but he was very very drunk and we didn’t even swap numbers. He found me on Facebook the next morning to apologise - 18 years later here we are.

McConkeysPlate · 13/03/2023 18:28

Camping with friends. He is my best friends brother

Eminybob · 13/03/2023 18:29

We worked together

exhusbandsaknob · 13/03/2023 18:31

At a gig in a pub last year. He is 55 and I'm 48.

VanillaSox · 13/03/2023 18:31

Hobby club

DiddlySquat52 · 13/03/2023 18:31

SPICE - adult type youth club. Google it. It's not a dating group, it's a social group.

MonkeyMindAllOverAround · 13/03/2023 18:32

At an allotment, it didn’t last.

Frankly, as afraid as you may be of OLD the chances of meeting a nice available man at your age away from OLD are drastically reduced to almost nothing.

Unlike in your 20s, I assume you are not studying with a lot if single people your age, going out regularly with your single friends and most of the men in your current age bracket are taken, I cannot even imagine how to identify the single ones!

But running clubs or hobbies groups may present you with a slight chance.

Pinkywoo · 13/03/2023 18:33

Also pub! I was working behind the bar and he became a regular.

ScottBakula · 13/03/2023 18:58

It's good to see pubs are still a popular place to find love.
I think one of the main problems with any dating sites or places including pubs is if you go looking gor it , it will allude you, it's better if you just
' happen across it '

bobby81 · 13/03/2023 18:59

Through mutual friends.

Redruby2020 · 13/03/2023 19:00

Not partner as such yet lol but started seeing someone, met him in a coffee shop and he asked for my number.
OLD is a bit of a luck of the drawer lol in my experience.

SallyWD · 13/03/2023 19:15

Friend of a friend

Thisisworsethananticpated · 13/03/2023 21:11

MonkeyMindAllOverAround

i agree
I met loads of men OUT when I was young , didn’t we all !
but I’m 49 and I don’t go out as much these days and when I do I’m sat with friends

so it’s hobbies, work or the rare times I socialise

or back to OLD 😬

Livelifelaughter · 13/03/2023 22:22

At a party

Purplecatshopaholic · 13/03/2023 22:24

Through mutual friends

aurynne · 14/03/2023 00:49

Previous boyfriend... t a MeetUp group where we did lots of tramping, coffees and museum visits.

The man I fancy in right now... during a 4-day hike. I am hoping he is interested too!

OLD has never worked for me, it takes away all the exciting process of getting to know someone with no pressure.

MaydinEssex · 14/03/2023 00:54

We met through mutual friends, neither of us was looking for a relationship, we just hit it off, talked for ages, had so many common interests and values and we have been together 10 years now, my advice is don't go looking, if its meant to be it will happen

watcherintherye · 14/03/2023 00:57

Introduced by a mutual friend 30+ years ago!

DeeCeeCherry · 14/03/2023 04:12

On a 1st date night out with a man Id 'met' via a FB group relating to shared hobby. Really nice to talk to online. Not so pleasant I found, in real life. We went to see a band he spent most of the time talking to his mates. I went outside for some air, turned round then locked eyes with current DP, been together almost 7 years. Im in my late 50s now.

Tbh OLD isnt for me, I dont even know why I dated that 1st guy as I have a social life relating to (age-appropriate) music scene so Id likely have met someone eventually anyway I suppose. Dont blame you for not liking OLD, I think you have to be really tough to deal with it

TheCatterall · 15/03/2023 22:33

7 years ago at an event at the community centre I volunteer at. He was dressed in a good awful 70s suit and blonde wig and that was it for me.

I volunteer to meet more people and it’s worked!

Zanatdy · 15/03/2023 22:35

Guy I’m seeing is an ex colleague. But only person I’ve fancied in 20yrs as not many single fanciable males in my organisation

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