Social Media

[MaxineTalb]

Been dating someone for 10 months, he has his FB relationship status as in a relationship with me - I did it first. I have recently tagged him in a picture with me, and some of his friends liked it, we have been to a family event together (with his adult kids) and everyone knows we are together but he never posts a single picture of me or him on his FB page. He had loads of pics of him and his ex when he was with her, but not a single one of me. I am just as good looking as her, and younger although not as slim and she was a horrible person with a very dodgy past who fleeced him out of thousands of pounds. Immediately he has a photo taken with his grandkids or adult kids, he posts it on fB but never a pic of me and him, or me and the dog etc. I am really beginning to feel like he is showing me "my place". I understand that to a point his family come first but surely there is room for me too ? He hardly ever likes any of my posts or never once has liked a photo of me. Apart from Xmas presents he has never bought me a single present. His ex regularly got presents, especially from Tiffany's, I am not expecting that just because she got it but a bit of something would have been nice during the last 10 months. Is it possible he is being mean with me because she conned him ?

Are you quite young?

Why are you so concerned with social media? You sound quite young. I couldn't give a shiny shit about SM, there are much more important things to worry about in life.

Are you 15 ?

Social media has disciplined us humans into a strange interaction which we would never have even have worried about some years ago, then again I am 52 so dont give a toss what is on social media, in fact I am closing it down soon as the pressure of being somebody to nobody is silly.

Who do you need to impress? would it give you more confidence in the relationship if he was liking, posting and tagging you in his posts daily?
How is he treating you away from facebook? gifts aside?
Is he loving? understanding? wanting to partake in your life?

Does FB really have this much say in your life? That is a platform that will have no weight on you later on in life, no whatsoever, it proves nothing, its a man made tool that in my opinion is good for businesses but not people as there is so much anxiety that comes with it, specially when you need to tell the world you are in a relationship, have received flowers, or are ill, or whatever, its a vanity of sort.

Dont let facebook dictate your relationship, talk to your partner and let him know what you wrote, and if he is understanding he will validate your worries, now if he takes it badly its a good indicator of your gut being right that you dont matter as much as you would like, and then you can reevaluate your relationship with him.

No folks I am not young, I am late 50's back to dating after loosing my husband of 31 years in a Road Traffic Accident in 2021 I am a novice to both dating and social media, which is why I asked for your help 🙁

Stay off of Facebook, op. You'll be a lot happier.

How old are you 16. Grow up

No one uses FB anymore who cares. Is he nice in person? Treats you well? Involves you?

No folks I am not young, I am late 50's back to dating after loosing my husband of 31 years in a Road Traffic Accident in 2021 I am a novice to both dating and social media, which is why I asked for your help 🙁 Your constructive message really did that (not)

My husband never posts pictures of me. I don't give it a second thought. Our relationship isn't based around social media.

He does, however, post pictures of his bikes, our cats, motorbike trips... and I still don't give it a second thought.

Even if he is in a relationship with you on FB or even posts photos of you it means nothing. FB allows you to create groups so you may see it but he can exclude other people, all his other friends if he wants, or certain people. I didn't realise my ex did this to me, FB status & photos of me & us therefore meant naff all as they were hidden. I wouldn't see what you said as a positive

I am just as good looking as her, and younger
Use those attributes to find a man who will gush about you on social media then.
While you're at it, try valuing yourself on more than looks & age. Your self esteem will be in tatters if you keep evaluating yourself against other women, especially using such sexist old tropes.

Is it possible he is being mean with me because she conned him ?
No, he is not buying you presents because he doesn't want to.
Whatever his ex did to him should have no bearing on you.
None of us can say whether that's related to him not posting on SM about you, or what it signifies about how much he values you.

You'll need to ask him, if you want answers.

Apologies for the bluntness OP, your comment about your comparative looks & age got my bloody goat. I hope you either get the answers you want, or decide you can do better & find genuine happiness elsewhere.

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