What is this ?

[DustyLee123]

Me and DH haven’t been getting on for a long time, but I’ve noticed that he has developed a way of shutting me down that makes it look like I’m not talking to him. So I’ll ask him to do/not do something that has been pissing me off for a long time, and he’ll give me a ‘here we go with the nagging again’ look, so then I’ll go off and not want to speak to him . It makes it look like I’m going off in a huff and not speaking, yet in reality I don’t want to go through that process and feel bad.
I used to be such a strong and feisty person, now I feel crushed by a look. I know it’s ‘abusive’ but can’t put a name to it.

gaslighting

Manipulative sloth

It’s emotional manipulation and it’s horrible. My ex would roll his eyes, sigh heavily and eventually resorted to continuously using the phrase “what’s wrong with you!”, over the simplest of disagreements (I used streak free window cleaner to clean his glass table). It crushed my personality and eventually convinced me there was something wrong with me. I’m out of it for 3 years now and trust me, it’s such a relief. Don’t put up with it, you’re better off without him

Check out DAVRO. Read Lundy Bancroft and Wolf in Sheep's clothing about manipulation. Call it out.

It's a sign that he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with you.

Hope you have some RL support to tackle this. Good luck.

www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/controlling-or-coercive-behaviour-intimate-or-family-relationship

Who cares what it's called? Just get out of this abusive marriage.

It's called being an arsehole

Don't rise to it, repeat your request, if he ignores you, ask him if he heard you. If he looks at you, say 'great, I'll take it that you heard and understood' then walk off

Am I ok ? No, not really. I feel lonely, and constantly on edge, like something is going to happen but I don’t know when. I’ve forgotten how to feel happy.

Which country are you in?
Can you call Women'sAid/Refuge
for some advice?