Hi all. I am 27 years old and my boyfriend is 29.
I am soon to be moving in with my boyfriend (Easter time); he has his own flat. We have been together a year.
I was with my ex for 8 years and in that time we bought a 3 bedroom house together. But I unfortunately found out that he was unfaithful and was seeing somebody else for months behind my back (would just go missing for days on end, telling me he was working). Found lots of conversations on his computer and receipts which matched the location of where she lived. Needless to say, I finished things before he could and moved back in with my parents. I have money locked away in savings from this relationship.
This should be an exciting time for me and my boyfriend right now, but I can’t stop thinking about the ‘what ifs’ of it going wrong again. My boyfriend has been amazing in helping me personally when I get anxious or feel negative about things. He has been amazing with me through my bad times and has helped me in dealing with my emotions.
it’s annoying as I can see how nice life could be, but I seem to have this black cloud of negativity which just won’t go away.
The plan would be for us to live at his for 6-12 months to see how things work and then he would sell his place and we would go 50/50 on a place together.
ive been seeing a counsellor and she has told me to ‘live in the moment’.
it’s really hard as my boyfriend thinks I’m doubting him but I’m not. It’s just me.
anyone who has been through similar?