Found pictures on his tablet

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Have name changed for this but have been on here for years.

I was looking through some old baby pictures of DS on the tablet earlier, and found some pictures of me which I had no idea had been taken. They were fully clothed and of completely every day things, like lying on the floor playing with DS but the photos were just of me focusing on my bum, DS wasn't in the photo, one of my breasts in a vest top (looked like the camera had been zoomed right in), one of me very obviously with no bra on and looking away and one zoomed right in one of my breasts in a pyjama top without a bra on. The photos were taken in 2020 and 2021, so not particularly recent but equally he's had 2 years to delete them and has kept them instead.

Things haven't been great for a while, I haven't been completely happy but I'd been really trying to make things work for DS, I hate the thought of him growing up with separated parents if I could've made it work, but I feel completely uncomfortable. He can be quite overbearing, I don't even wear a vest top around the house anymore as I get constant stares, comments and touches so to find these just makes me feel violated.

I don't know what to do or think, I haven't said anything to him yet as DS has been around, I've just been quite distant. He knows somethings up as he keeps asking if I'm OK.

I don't know what to do now. I took a photo on my phone of all the pictures with the date they were taken next to them, I need to speak to him but don't know what I want from the conversation.

By 'overbearing' you actually mean - a creep.

Considering that alongside these pictures you've found...I be, running for the hills.

A partner doesn't make you feel 'violated'. That's what a predator does to their victim.

I'm so so sorry. But, run. Run fast and run far and never go back. There's no fixing this shit.

*I'd be

Seriously though op. It's beyond grim.
You're not a piece of meat to be learned at or groped.

He's a sick fucker.
You don't have conversations with men like him. You just get the fuck out of there as fast as your legs will carry you.

NOTE: incase anyone says that's an overreaction- if it were just the pictures I would say it might just be a little cringe but harmless enough. But it isn't just the pics, it's the way he treats you abd makes you feel as a whole. And it's not ok.

It's your husband...and it's his tablet, I actually don't really see that much wrong with it...he clearly finds you attractive and that's a good thing?! Don't know what kind of comments you are talking about and that's a different issue. You say things have not been good for a while so I do think now seeing those pictures you have freaked out a bit

And just to add- it's you, his wife in those photos, not some random women, well that would be sick, yes

What? Are you roommates or husband and wife.
id love my husband lusting over me like this! 😂

URGH, previous two posters - consent doesn't suddenly become irrelevant just because you're married! Christ.

Oh get a grip! You dont have to ask consent to take a photo of the body of your wife/husband

I’d go back on and delete the photos, then permanently delete them from deleted.

It’s not just the OP’s partner taking pictures of her because he finds her attractive. OP said she can’t even wear a vest in the house because she gets stared at, touched or constant remarks.

When you’re not in a happy relationship with someone, these things don’t make you blush and giggle. It’s more of a repulsive, creepy feeling. Sorry OP. Not sure what exactly you can say to him but it seems quite intense if you’re already not happy

I knew there'd be at least one comment like this. Didn't have to scroll far.

Absolutely sick. Yes, there's a lot wrong with a husband who behaves like this. The fact they are married does not give him the right to treat her this way, taking creepy photos in secret and making her feel so objectified and uncomfortable in her own home that she has to be conscious of what she wears. Fucking hell. The shit that women are expected to put up with - and not just put up with but be flattered by.

Are you fucking serious?

Don't forget that there are weirdos out there who share photos online of wives/girlfriends that they aren't aware have been taken.

I think they get a thrill of sharing each others hidden camera pics.

It's the first thing that came to mind when reading your OP.

Really grim that anyone would read your whole post and then defend him op. Either some people skim read or they have really low standards.

Just because you marry someone doesn't give them the right to leer at and objectify you to the extent that you can't even wear a tank top in your own house. There's a difference between flirting with your wife and treating her like a (sex) object. There's a difference between coming onto your wife and constantly sexually harassing her. There's a difference between making your wife feel loved, appreciated and attractive and making her feel unconfortable, letched over and violated.