Heartbroken

[Kazakat]

So this is my first time posting. I just need some words of encouragement really.
I met my ex in 2020 in between lock downs. We got on so well and 4 months later were together officially. We fell pregnant 2 months later but we were not trying just weren't being careful. I kept the baby even though we were both shocked. On the day of my 12 week scan my dad died. It was a very stressful time to say the least. I had the baby 6 months after my dad died. Then when my baby was 2 months old my mum got lung cancer and passed away 9 months later. Anyway fast forward 8 months later and my partner out of the blue leaves me. He said he just sees me as a friend. He has since turned so cold on me and doesn't care he has ruined a family. My daughter is 19 months. I'm totally crushed and don't know what to do. He's gone and it hurts like hell.

Oh my goodness, what a lot of heartache, no wonder you feel so upset. Do you have other family or friends for support.

That's horrible. I'm so sorry. I went through similar in 2017, my mum died, then weeks later my dad died. I was also pregnant. It was the worst time of my life. Nearly 6 years on, it has got easier to live with. Sending love x

Gosh. That is truly awful, you poor poor thing. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents.

This is an incredibly difficult time for you.

It's very sad your relationship didn't work out. Though all of what you've been through has probably taken a huge toll on you, your relationship and him. It's such a sad thing to have happened.

You hadn't known each other long and then all of these huge things happened, so it's not for us to judge him leaving. But I'm incredibly sorry for you and hope you have some support. Do you have any access to therapy? You must really need to talk about all that's gone on. Any support with parenting? I found my local NCT very supportive when I was going through a crisis and had a baby / toddler but that was probably just luck of the draw.

So sorry for your loss. Don't mean to sound harsh but you had a child with someone you barely knew.

Now he has revealed himself and he is a shit pure and simple. Get rid of him. You and your child deserve much better.

Although it probably doesn't feel like it, you're better off without him. Focus on your daughter and bringing her up. Many women have been through what you're going through. Do you anyone who's been through similar who you can talk to? A friend, a work colleague? You'll be stronger for it because you have to be. Good luck.

To be fair he hasn't behaved like a shit just ended the relationship.

OP I'm sorry you're so sad. This one will fade, but you need time and kindness to yourself.