I emailed DB (lives v far away) yesterday to tell him I've been suffering domestic abuse, and that it was a trained, third party organisation that said this, rather then me exaggerating. Gave him some updates on my long running divorce (which I don't normally bore him with because he knows things have been bad and doesn't ask how I am or how things are).
His response is basically "Oh it looks like there's been a lot going on."
I feel so totally unsupported. I live abroad so have been in a situation where I have literally been trapped in a marriage by a man who has all but admitted he is trapping me. DB knows this. Trying to get divorced has been going on for years.
I know people who have parents/a parent who have/has helped them get out of bad relationships. I don't have that. I have a few friends, but they all have their own lives and caring extended families. I'm happy for them, it just means they're busy with their own families a lot. They also do not even remotely understand what it is to be so isolated in a foreign country (they're abroad, but have a lot of love around them). Weekends come and they do nice things with their families. I literally try to survive them. Every single weekend. I absolutely dread every holiday, long weekend etc.
We're told to reach out for support. But what happens when you do and it isn't there? What are you supposed to do then? Even when I've told him it's definitely domestic abuse, really not me being "over sensitive", my own brother barely gives two shits. He wants my health to get better (devastated by stress), but sees that as basically due to a lack of my own discipline. It's all turned back on me, when I just want someone to hold my hand.
I'm sorry I know I'm being self-putting. It's confusing though. We're told to reach out, but not told what to do when we do that and nobody is really there.