Partner going out

[mumof2g1rls]

Just really need a place to vent

How would you feel your partner going on a night out when you are 9 days Postpartum with your 3rd baby? We had our baby on the 2nd of March after a complicated pregnancy, was induced due to preeclampsia and liver issues, didn't get home until the 4th of March so we've only been home for 5 days. All he's done today is go on about needing a pint, saying to me we should go to the pub and I should enjoy me first drink, told him I absolutely wasn't ready for a drink at all as I was still in so much pain with these PP cramps etc and I couldn't think of anything worse than a drink. He goes for a drink anyway and leaves me with the kids so I went out to my mums for a few hours. Anyway he knows I've been getting really bad cramps, I've been passing clots but not bleeding, and today they were getting really bad and my headaches were very intense, took my BP and my BP is high so nervous that I'm getting post natal preeclampsia, tell him all this and that I need to phone the midwives to get checked and yet it's 3am and he's still out drinking.

I've told him how I am annoyed, how 9 days PP is way too soon to be going out especially how he knows how I've been feeling and all he has to say is 'Jesus stop moaning at me'.

I'm honestly just fed up. Am I being completely unreasonable to say I'm annoyed at him? I really don't think I am

Sorry you have such uncaring partner, his attitude is grim to say the least

Absolute selfish pig.
Op are you okay? Can you get your mum to take you to hospital to get checked out ? Or are you able to leave baby with her while you go ?

I'm sorry he's being selfish. Do not tiptoe round him tomorrow when he's hungover.

I'm confident his behaviour is of no surprise to you. Decent men don't suddenly become utter twats. He's inherently selfish and always will be.

He sounds awful. I cannot believe he suggested you drink alcohol when you just had preeclampsia and having high BP and also bleeding. Make sure you get checked out ASAP for high BP and headache, as I got preeclampsia at 33 weeks and again 10 days PP. I am sorry he's being so selfish.

Of course YANBU. I am so angry at your partner’s lack in f care and selfishness towards you and the 3 children that I would normally advise you to leave the bastard, but you can’t can you? Because the horrible prick has got you exactly where he wants you. 😔

Going out for a few drinks if you're feeling well and coping...fair enough. Going out on an all night bender when you're unwell and have told him you need him home...completely out of order. I hope you're ok x

This.

He obviously has form for this.

Totally unacceptable and selfish on his part. As someone has already said, he probably already has form for this.

You've just had a BABY and you're feeling unwell. Meanwhile, he's more concerned about going out drinking instead of helping you out.

If I were you, I'd be pretty furious with him.

DH went to an England cricket match (ODI), when DD was a week old - However … I didn’t have any debilitating birth injuries, my sister came over, I only had one child, DH didn’t drink, and came home as soon as the match was over.

You Partner is completely out of order, especially knowing you are physically struggling. To go out for one drink is shit, to stay out until 3am is totally unacceptable.

Have his clothes in a bin bag, and a bolt on the door.