Do you the MN jury think it is possible for men and women to be just friends!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jazzicatz]

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when one of them is gay, sure.

just because someone is gay doesnt mean that they want to shag every member of the same sex
of course they can just be friends
why would it be any different

Yes.

yes of course. I have lots of male friends.

yes

Yes. I have male friends a couple of whom have also become good friends with DH. And vice-versa I've become friends with his female friends.

Why the strange question?

No reason in particular for the question. I have a dear friend from uni who happens to be male. I know he fancies me - has never made a move but I know he does. And with other male friends I have always thought about whether I could 'do' them. Obviusly I haven't but have thought about it whereas have never thought about it with my gf!!

To be honest the thought of 'doing' something with my male friends (even the good looking ones) makes me feel a bit yuk....in a kind of 'brother' way.

yes

Yes of course

Thinking of workmates & so on...don;t have any really close male friends now but have had in the past.

And certainly with most of them it would never cross my mind that there is anything more than friendship in it.

It is damn hard to be just friends with someone you do fancy though...

Not close friends, no. (Sorry, for the difference in opinion)!

no

On Thurs I would have said yes definitely, but I was at a work do on Friday night and a good friend of 20 years suddenly started slobbering all over me. This is a man I have often been alone with, often been drunk with and had never had any inkling this could happen.

I'm still in a state of shock and really don't know what I'm going to do when I get back to work after half term.

I say yes, DP says not really, only in an aquaintance way, or a 'we worked/lived/uni'd/partied together' way.
Apparently all men that like a woman enough to become 'close' friends fancy the pants off her. the only way it#s different is if it's 'old' friends.

no,not close friends.unless one of them is gay.

I am close friends with a male, he isn't gay, quite cute and nice looking but wouldn't want to go there...too young would feel bad and i already have my dh..so not an issue, he trusts me and i trust him, so yes i think you can be close friends with a guy you fancy...will power and decency comes to mind!!!

definitely, I have many male friends that I dont fancy, I know they dont fancy me, but we get along brilliantly.

I've always had more male friends than female.I'm actually still good friends with my ex-fiancee and even shared a flat with him after we split up as just housemates because he moved for work to near where I was. I'm godmother to his children (he's now married with two DC) and he to one of mine. There's nothing between us anymore except friendship, on both sides. His wife and my DP are quite hapy for us to be friends.

this is all very one sided! My husband always said when men and women are friends there is always something sexual at the back of it. you are women and clearly wouldn't agree, so I'm just slinging ONE man's point of view in. Don't kill me!

yes - only if you both want just a friendship

if either of you wants more, then a true friendship would never work

I have more male friends than female and I can categorically promise I do not want to shag any of them!

I don't think so. I've dropped my male friends when I hooked up with dp. If you do have them there should be boundaries. 3 of my friends have had partners who have had affairs with their 'friends'. It's such a cliche, not getting on, shoulder to cry on type of stuff. in my experience my male friends have always tried it on at some point.

Wisteria they all probably want to shag you..

One night my now ex hub was away for the night, and two male friends independently came round with wine to 'keep me company' neither knew the other was coming and i didn't know either were coming - we were all surprised when my dh's night was cancelled and he was home early