Me and DH have been together for 15 years, married for 6. We have two DC aged 11 and 6 and for the most part have had a good relationship although when I think back it hasn't all been smooth sailing.
My DH has always been very sensitive and needy but it's definitely getting worse and I'm now at breaking point with our relationship and just above ready to throw in the towel.
He's always had an issue with anyone I talk to and says that everyone fancies me (even women) but I'm literally nothing special to look at and very overweight for my height.
If I ever smile at anyone (again could be a woman) in a friendly way then he accuses me of flirting and is happy to cause a big scene about it if we are out in public with our kids which is just really embarrassing and upsetting as he doesn't know when to stop going on and will drag it on for hours and potentially days!
I work full time and have a demanding role but he says I'm never home and not around for the kids even though I literally race home from work to spend time with everyone and take them to their various activities. I only have a few friends and will go out to the gym or for a meal with one of them once a week but he has started using it against me and says I'm out "all the time, spending all our hard earned money" which is making me withdraw from friendships as I'm now starting to feel like I'm not allowed or shouldn't go out because he doesn't like it plus I'm scared to deal with the backlash of it all.
He will get up in a mood and find something to argue about, and most of the time it's because he says I don't want to spend anytime with him when I'm literally sat holding his hand, talking and watching TV with him every single night. He also thinks sex once a week is not enough and I should be doing bits in between to keep him happy and fulfilled - I have a very low sex drive and always have but comments like this puts me off even more.
He shouts quite regularly and insults me in front of the children by saying that I fancy everyone, I'm an attention seeker, I'm selfish, he doesn't get the affection he needs often enough, I'm only interested in my friends (again only see them once a week and not consistently and very rarely text them on a day to day basis), I'm a lazy arse and anything else you could basically think of.
The most recent issue is that he's started finding problems with the way that I dress. He doesn't like anything I wear to work which is usually a dress with tights especially as it's winter but he said they're all really short (they go to my knees) and that I just want to wear them because if I slightly bend over they show my arse off - I literally have tights on and I couldn't think of anything more embarrassing than my bum being out at work. If I have anything with a slight low cut in it then he says I just want people to see my breasts so that they'll fancy me more.
There's just so much more to it but the post is quite long already so I'm going to stop here. I actually don't think I need any advice as I now just need to build up the strength to make a decision about what's best but I knew writing it all down would give me some relief and perspective as I'm just so emotionally drained.
If you manage to get through it all then thanks for reading 😀