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I'm angry because my husband called me a screaming school girl

32 replies

Ramenlove · 10/03/2023 00:50

Hi All,

Background is, there was a mouse in the house and i was trying to catch it. My hubby didn't really want to help but only came when i started calling for his assistance. Now i don't mind touching a mouse or rat but i hate it when they are running around. When he came to "help", he ended up chasing the mouse towards me so i started screaming. He told me off for screaming saying I'm not a "screaming school girl" then walkes off leaving me to catch the mouse for the next 30mins while he watches tv. Am i right to be angry? He thinks I'm childish for being angry.

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AlmostaMamma · 10/03/2023 01:02

🤣🤣🤣

ZekeZeke · 10/03/2023 01:18

You called him hubby greenhouses ?

Agapornis · 10/03/2023 01:33

So...did you get the mouse? Grin

Mice are not known for standing still and waiting to be caught. Maybe get a trap, or a cat.

Moser85 · 10/03/2023 04:46

How were you trying to catch it? 😂

StrawHatOnTheParcelShelf · 10/03/2023 04:55

I suppose it's not a great way to treat your loved one but I'd also eyeroll and scoff at anyone who literally screamed at a creature as harmless as a mouse. If it was an angry brown bear running at you, fair enough (though still stupid because it will then want to eat you).

EVHead · 10/03/2023 05:03

I’d have laughed at you. Get a humane trap, pop some peanut butter or chocolate inside, relax.

NoodleQueen90 · 10/03/2023 05:18

I can sympathise, I'm absolutely petrified of spiders! They put the absolute fear of death into me, particularly if they are moving and usually a massive scream escapes when I spot one, it's not something I have control over. OH understandably jumps out of his skin and gets mildly annoyed at me for screaming but ultimately, he gets up to get a glass and something to put it out while I give him a running commentary of where the eight legged shit is going. When we first lived together, he pretended he was going to throw one at me...let's just say he hasn't done it again! He doesn't understand why I'm so scared (and neither do I) but he also no longer winds me up about it in any way.

GoodChat · 10/03/2023 05:20

Were you both running after the mouse? Grin

rwalker · 10/03/2023 05:21

Screaming goes through me I would of done the same

pawz · 10/03/2023 05:42

I'm on hubsters side here, no need to be screaming like a school girl when a mouse runs about. That's no help at all in that situation - I'd leave you to it too if that's the reaction I got when helping tbh, can't deal with screamers 😂

Ohhhhladz · 10/03/2023 05:51

I don't understand the "like a schoolgirl" part. Some people scream as a reflex when startled; if you're prone to it you probably learn to control it most of the time, but not always. It doesn't have anything to do with fear, but rather surprise.

But there seems to be a theme with him of calling you young/immature. Is there a big age gap, like you're 18 and he's 100, or something? That would also explain why he had to sit down and rest so soon. Any chance he's deflecting because he's embarrassed about his extreme age/reduced endurance?

Snoken · 10/03/2023 05:54

You wanted to catch the mouse, he chased it towards you and you screamed. How were you thinking you would catch this mouse? With your hands? If so it would have needed to be near you so there is no use in screaming when it does come near you. It sounds like a flawed plan and your DH could see it would never work so he got annoyed with you and left you to it.

Redebs · 10/03/2023 06:00

So instead of being useful, he shooed the mouse away from himself, like a little schoolboy?

GoldilocksIsALittleSod · 10/03/2023 06:02

I'd have left you to it, can't deal with people screaming for no reason - a mouse is not life threatening.

discobrain · 10/03/2023 06:09

Christ

It's a mouse not a grenade. 🙄

DarkNecessities · 10/03/2023 06:12

So you came on here and told your friends

pictoosh · 10/03/2023 06:43

ZekeZeke · 10/03/2023 01:18

You called him hubby greenhouses ?

Oh don’t start. Old hat.

I dunno…if my dh started screaming I might call him a screaming schoolgirl…but not nastily. I’d be laughing.
We get a few mice here, old house, three cats. I throw a jacket over escapees and bully them into a cereal box before putting them outside.

Velvian · 10/03/2023 06:56

I think he is more scared of mice than you are. That's why he was watching TV and not helping. You scared him further by screaming, so he ran away.

Surely you could have tried to catch it when it was running towards you though?
You're braver than I am, I would have kept well away.

Original poster
Ramenlove · 10/03/2023 07:32

I did caught it actually and with my hands lol! I do have a cat who didn't know there was a mouse there!

I'm not usually the kind who screams!

My hubby leaves catching of anything bigger than a spider to me....snake was one he left to me as well.

So to be called a screaming school girl when I'm the one doing the actual catching was annoying to me.

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Aftjbtibg · 10/03/2023 07:34

I’d be annoyed he left me to it more than what he said

Original poster
Ramenlove · 10/03/2023 07:34

I normally try to catch it when it runs and sits in a corner (not the first one i caught given i have a cat who brings them home). My hubby charged it towards me even though i left the door open and it was literally next to the door!!!

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RunTowardsTheLight · 10/03/2023 07:35

YANBU. He went and sat on the sofa while you caught it! He's the one who is a wimp, not you!

Original poster
Ramenlove · 10/03/2023 07:36

Lol there was that too! He made me clear a dead rat earlier in the day from the garden too!

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Justleaveitblankthen · 10/03/2023 07:38

I can't stand any histrionics around harmless creatures.
Poor little mouse would have been petrified 🐭

LizzieSiddal · 10/03/2023 07:41

He left you to catch the mouse whilst he went and watched Tv? Why would anyone do that? Unless he has some physical disabilitiy which stopped him from helping you, I’d think he was a disrespectful, immature, lazy arse who had no respect for his wife.

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