I have a brother. He left last year to go away abroad. In the years before he left, his whole entire personality changed and I felt very strongly it was drugs. So much signs pointed to drugs.
His drunk spells were not normal. Lasting days, high and tripping, not recognising things, losing his belongings. His hangovers were not normal.
Lasting for days.
Eventually losing his girlfriend because she probably got fed up being ignored and being second best to his mates and night outs. Then he lost his job too.
He was hardly ever able to go to work on Monday and Tuesday after
weekend out. Sometimes only starting his work week on a Wednesday or Thursday.
So many signs pointed to drugs. He became distant and ignored me so many times and made it obvious too.
Like we lived at home. I would go to bed at night time and then he will come out of his room. Even though I wasn't a person that drowned him with questions or feelings or anything like that.
He made it completely obvious he was ignoring me.
He only ever came to life when he was getting ready to go out with his mates. It clicked with me then that there was a roller-coaster effect with him and he only came to life in anticipation for a hit of drugs.
He went away to be with our other siblings abroad.
Since he left, he had hardly contacted me.
I can count about 2 or 3 times. He claimed he was shut out of facebook and messagner due to changing numbers and he's not able to get back in.
I am upset about this. My mother wants me to keep in touch with him and send him pictures of the snow but I know I am only going to be ignored.
I can't thing of any row thatvwe had for him to turn around and block me out of his life the way he did.
We did chat on the phone a few weeks ago but I felt it was very forced and superficial and he was very critical of some things that I said. He was nearly trying to root out and find fault and just dish out the criticism.
He is working now thank goodness so I hope that will straighten him out. He's claiming he's working 7 days a week with only 2 days off a fortnight.
I think he could keep in touch if he wanted to. I find it hard to believe that he would have shit down communication with his friends.
There wasn't one message in the year since he left to ask - 'how are you? How are things at home? Happy Christmas? Any plans for Christmas? Or any other communication. I did raise my concerns about our mother and my concerns about her and he phones her once every 2 or 3 months all he's getting a showtime call filled with many lies from her. He's not getting the real picture of how she is because he doesn't care to communicate with me.
Like this morning, her judgement was poor. She was bored and she wanted to go for a walk but it's snowing and then I saw her shoes and her shoes were not appropriate for the snow. They had no grip whatsoever. I had to get her to change her shoes into the walking boots with a grip instead of the other ones she was wearing. She was like a child arguing with me but I didn't want to see her slip and fall.