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Friend knowingly ripped me off

33 replies

Disco123456 · 08/03/2023 16:38

I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, as it's a small amount, but I feel really annoyed that my friend basically ripped off.

My friend is also my hairdresser, I don't actually like going to a friend for a service but I've ended up here. She moved to new salon and when I went to her last week she put a £20 treatment in my hair without asking and then charged me for it. I've always known these type of add ons to be a total rip off and she knows I have the same products at home as we discussed it just before. She barely left it on 20 seconds and then said to me 'you don't leave it on for long at home do you?' then washed it off.

I also know that she gets commission on every treatment she 'sells'. I think the margins for salons are something like 20/1 on treatments.

It's not something I'd ever opt for and when I paid she said 'with the treatment that will £xxx'.

She is actually hard work anyway and drains me but everytime I can't stand anymore a big sob story or life drama comes out.

I think this is the tipping point though as I would never intentionally rip a friend off.

Am I overreacting over £20 I can easily afford? She definitely doesn't need the money herself as well

OP posts:
MrsMikeDrop · 26/06/2023 11:16

You shouldn't be going to a friend if you feel this strongly, also you shouldn't go to a friend in their professional job if you're expecting a discount or a bargain. Also given how strongly you feel you should be telling any/all Hairdresser you don't want to be paying for any extras. You both sound a little unfair to each other tbh. She ripped you off, and you sound a bit cheap

Batalax · 26/06/2023 11:18

You aren’t over reacting. It’s not the actual £20, it’s the thought process behind it.

pollymere · 27/06/2023 20:32

I once had a salon put treatments in my hair - that made my scalp itch like crazy. I hadn't asked for it and made it clear I wasn't prepared to pay for something they hadn't patch tested either. I was clearly allergic to something in it. This was the type of Salon that charges you a fiver for a coffee at the same time.
I'd definitely be doing that if someone put a treatment in my hair now...

MyEyesAreBleeding · 27/06/2023 20:47

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 09/03/2023 08:40

If you find it hard not to message back when she sends messages full of woe or anything else just send back generic "sorry to hear that". "That's a shame". "That's good" messages. Don't leave openings for more conversation. If she asks you questions, things like "not much", "sorry, but busy at the moment", or "not bad" type of answers.

Oh my gosh. I use these replies when I'm unsure what to say or feeling overloaded (autistic). I hadn't realised they were so transparently uninterested/placatory. 😬

Polew · 27/06/2023 21:49

Sorry but its very telling you idea off 'cutting off' is just to ignore her messages 😂

Is it possible she put it on by accident then made up some bullshit about you washing it off straight away to justify taking off before you complained But when you didnt due to lack of communication she added it on the bill as she would have to justify having used it if its doled out on commission as only so many treatments are in a bottle (& im assuming you were at a salon rather then her home) ??

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt as it's not easy being friends with somebody who's loud & brash or meek & quite but if she has history of it & you genuinely dont like her of course you dont have to stay friends with her ?!?

rwalker · 27/06/2023 21:59

£20 well spent if it give you the clarity to see you friendship with her for what it is

ditch her

joycies · 29/06/2023 21:50

She us ripping you off so no longer a friend !

SillyBub · 29/06/2023 21:53

Setting as this thread is from MARCH, hopefully the OP has cut off her friend now (see what I did there?)

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