Hi all
i am not sure why I am posting on here I am just all over the place at the moment and so heartbroken as I have discovered a few days ago that my on and off partner of 7 years has been in another on and off relationship for 10 years and has 2 children- one boy one girl aged 3 and 5 with this woman. He told me he had no children and I had no idea about any of this especially the children.
i found out through someone we both know who then told me who the woman was and I contacted her who told me everything and vice Versa. He does not live with this woman and hasn’t since before they had kids .. and they are not together both facts confirmed by her and him however their set up seems very weird and I don’t understand any of it but that’s not my concern tbh
His family knew about both of us but she was alot more involved in the family than I was. Something i questioned a lot and I wondered was there someone else but the kids element has floored me
our Rship was toxic. As is there’s from what she said but this still is the biggest betrayal and heart
Break I have ever experienced in my life.
he also coerced me to get an abortion when this other woman was about to give birth I know this as she has told me the dates the children were born. I spoke to him about wanting kids all the time, he told me he wasn’t ready yet little did I know he had them already
I confronted him, he denied it at first then admitted it. He said they are not together and it’s a co parenting Rship and he loves me , the very next day he told her I was nothing and I am lying
I haven’t spoken to him since I have came off social media and changed my number however im now finding this so hard and I feel so angry ! I know I’ll be better off out of this but I feel what type of sick person can lie for this long
so much more I could say but I don’t want this post to be to outing incase she is on here