Is this a break-uppable offence?

[crystalmoon3746]

is this a deal breaking offence?

look in bfs phone at his conversation right his ex and he said to her:

>i’m gonna go to bed now because i’m too tired to function and i wouldn’t want to cross a line

she asked what he meant and he said

>old habits kicking in for example

they were together for a long time and we’ve only recently started. we are LDR i different continent and she only lives 2 hours away.

Yes, disrespecting his privacy and going through his messages is a dumping offence!!

Warning signs:

He's messaging his ex, in a way that shows he still has feelings for her.
You're going through his phone.
You knew you'd find something on his phone (ie there's more to his untrustworthy behaviour than you've told us)

All of that against a backdrop of a LDR. For a LDR to work you have to have absolute trust, and an equal commitment to working at the r'ship. You have to be confident it will be worth all the extra aggro and effort. It doesn't sound like you have any of that.

It doesn't sound like either of you are gaining anything from his relationship. You're both crossing lines.

I agree with other posters,

He is talking walking red banner

Run 🏃‍♀️ opposite direction

Actually I,m not sure, sounds like he's trying to shut the conversation down.

She may still have feelings for him and he may well be trying to pacify her and get rid at the same time.