What do I do? I've been separated but living to get her with DP for almost two years. I have not been in a financial position to buy somewhere else and he wouldn't leave. So we kind of plodded along, unhappy in the relationship but coparenting our son and working as a team on the house.
There have been some recent events that brought everything to the fore and it's made me realise that life is too short, it's time to move on. I've taken on more days at work to get myself into a better financial position and I want to sell and live separately.
DP is devastated. This has been such a long time coming, so not out of the blue at all but he's just not able to cope/ accept it. I'm struggling too, its a massive adjustment and the last few years have just been miserable. I can't support him through our breakup. He just keeps begging me to give it one last chance. I've had to be really blunt and say I don't love him anymore and that I will not change my mind about the situation. He says I can get the love back, he will do better, fixated on all the good times.
Neither of us have family nearby so he is relying on me to make this better for him but I can't and the emotional strain is suffocating. I go upstairs to bed for space in the evenings and he'll cry, roar and wail at what's happening, he messages me begging for another chance. I have no place to go to get a more physical space. He will refuse to go anywhere at the moment but doesn't really have any options at the moment anyway.
This is horrendous