Sharing text messages

[SilverSprite]

This is about a work relationship with a colleague than any other kind.

A colleague showed me a text someone at work had written to him about me saying I was narcissistic and passive aggressive. I had genuinely done the wrong thing in a situation regarding the person who wrote the text but had already apologised and have been trying to fix the situation.

However, my colleague says he is trying to be ‘helpful’ in sharing this message. If it were the other way round I think I would have addressed in a different way. Does anyone else feel this is a bit off to be sharing a text like this with quite such a blunt message?

I’m guessing the other colleague felt a bit stuck in the middle and wanted to be transparent. Yes it was quite blunt but it wasn’t a text they sent and they probably just wanted you to see it yourself incase word of this message went around.

Personally, If it’s going as far as badmouthing in work place then I’d try resolve it myself one more time and then maybe go to hr for them to be an intermediary for you both. Don’t mean this to be offensive but It’s a place of work therefore you both need to be professional .

Thanks Hiddenvoice - I am not actually thinking badly at all about the person who sent the text- it is a bit upsetting of course but I actually feel quite guilty and it was a stupid thing I did. I also don’t think that it will get around as I know he will not have expected this colleague to share it with me.

However this colleague is in the habit of passing on anything critical and I am starting to wonder about his motivations. This is just the latest example.

It really depends on the person. I have colleagues that I am very close to and they would 100% share something like this with me and I would appreciate it.

However, if it was someone I wasn't close to, I'd think they were doing it just to stir things.

Either way, just try your best to resolve it with the person involved and do not get involved with this person who showed you the text. For all you know, they could be feeding your thoughts and opinions back the other way.