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Separation (housing situation)

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HollyJenni · 06/03/2023 06:27

So about a week ago, I separated from my OH of 11 years. I discovered he had been messaging one of my Mums closest friends who was a family friend. Our relationship wasn’t perfect in the slightest, lack of intimacy, no spark etc so I’ve been staying with my parents and our 6 yo daughter has been living between the two houses. It’s far from ideal as my cats are living there and my ex is now saying that our daughter is not the same girl she was before etc and that she isn’t happy with the bed she is staying in at my parents (it’s more than comfy but not ideal granted).
I cannot afford the house we shared. He works away some weeks so I have been staying there when he isn’t and then going to my parents. Houses in the local area aren’t cheap, and finding a house where I can take my cats isn’t going to be easy either. What on earth do I do ? I’m feeling completely and utterly lost. My priority is our daughter and it kills me that she is having to go through this. I never wanted this for her. Does anyone have any advice at all?

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VanillaSox · 06/03/2023 06:33

So sorry you are going through this. Could you consider nesting where your DD stays at the house and you and your partner live alternate weeks? I know two families who are doing this -much better for the kids,

HollyJenni · 06/03/2023 06:42

Thing is, he doesn’t want to end the relationship and he has nowhere to go. I thought about living in separate rooms until I find somewhere else

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