Early warning signs?

[morethanspice]

So I’ve met a man this week from bumble. Two dates, the first was lovely the second not as lovely but couldn’t really say why, though I did feel he lacked empathy when I mentioned I was missing my daughter who is abroad. He had asked me to go out again tomorrow evening as busy with work over the early weekend, messaged good morning early this am to which I replied. Then nothing til late same evening saying are you not talking? Not in a jokey way. I just feel uneasy x

You don't feel good about him. End things. Find someone who does. Good luck!

Seconded.

Trust your gut.
2 dates, one good and one not so good. Bin!
Raise your standards.

Allow him, move on!

Absolutely trust your gut.

In the past I've questioned myself in this situation that maybe I'm being too hasty etc. But you can't dismiss that gut feeling.

Every single time I'd say later, I KNEW on the second (or whatever) date it wasn't right/something was off! It's so obvious when you look back and at the time I would just override it thinking I was being fussy or finding flags where there weren't any. They were always waving plainly for me to see and I ignored them. Dont be me!

He's practically a stranger, you owe him nothing. Trust your gut, say goodbye and move on.

Trust thine gut.

I struggle with this
Most recently I felt the vibe change the 3rd time we slept together
Just felt like he'd lost interest but couldn't explain why
I still felt like that 2 months later until I ended it last week
I'm still questioning if I've done the wrong thing

Second date, you’re not feeling it. Don’t go on a third. No point in wasting both your time.

Are you operating under the notion that everyone deserves a chance? If you are, don’t. It’s roundly women who are encouraged to think this way and gamely accept less than they would like…men don’t feel the need do they?

Just be honest. You’re not feeling the spark. Thanks and good luck for the future.

Nah. You're picking up on little signs that he isn't on your wavelength. Think how you or people dear to you would have communicated on those occasions in his shoes- maybe expressed understanding about missing his son/ daughter and shown interest in their ventures abroad and then restarted the text convo with a question about his day or somesuch? He obviously sees things very differently. Doesn't necessarily make him a terrible monster but you don't need endless evidence that he's not quite the one for you. Your impressions are enough. Next!!

Fuckstix I think you’ve nailed it

What would make you think that anything other than 'goodbye' was the next move?

I blocked him. He’d asked earlier in the week to meet Sunday evening for something to eat. I did chat to him a bit on Sunday as was waiting to see if he’d actually go ahead planning the details of the date which we’d agreed on. Sunday evening came and went and he never mentioned that we had arranged to meet. Then early Monday morning I got a good morning sexy message. Obviously a gas lighter and the next stop was blocking on any means he had to contact me.