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To offer advice or not to that is my question?

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Gallowayan · 04/03/2023 21:44

This is about my relationship with neighbours which I am finding it hard to negotiate.

Didn't want to post in AIBU for obvious reasons.

For context; rural area live on a smallholding recently have new neighbors. They have bought a house and land next to us.

It's a close knit community and people are mostly friendly and look out for each other. New family have mainly lived outside UK. They plan to run a smallholding but lack basic knowledge.

I have chatted with them a couple of times and provided practical help but only when asked. Also given them vegetables and horse manure etc. They have not always liked my advice.

For example they asked me if their vehicle could be used to go up and down a slope on their field (off road) and I said not. They did not like being told this, but I was being honest and knew it was too muddy wrong tyres etc.

They also asked if I would graze my animals on their land to keep the grass down (which does not work for me). But they also plan to grow crops there.? So obviously quite childlike ideas.

They are a nice family and I have time to provide help and advice. But I have a horror of being seen as an intrusive busybody or know all.

So would you offer more help? Get more involved? Or not?

Thanks if you have managed to read this far and appreciate any advice.

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