Met someone, long distance. Is there any point?

[Bemyclementine]

Been single more than 5 yrs. No interest in a relationship at all, 2 small children and limited childcare so impossible to go out/date etc even if I was interested

But....recently met a very nice man at an event (with DC) Got on so well. He has an older child. He lives 3-3.5 hour drive away.

I'll be seeing him again in a few weeks (another event) and I'm really looking forward to it. But I'm already worrying about the distance. Is there any point? It may well spur me on to get better contact arrangement in place for dc and ExH. Also I'm sure my mum would have them once a month to facilitate a bit of child free time.

I lived 500 miles away from my now DH. It was worth it. You wont know unless you give it a try.
Good luck

Oh
We both had kids too although older than yours

Thank you. I will see him once a month at these events over the next few months so I guess that will help.

I was going to start adking questions but it's a leap from having met someone once to "how did you move in?" 🤣

It is possible but remember at some point one of you would have to move. That gets really hard when you have family and dependants.

I say go for it ❤️

Thanks @Backstreets It's sods law, first time in all these years I felt a real connection. Been walking round with a stupid smile on my face.

@motherofkevinnotperry yes, that's the problem isnt it.

Even if you "purse" it doesn't mean it'll work out. Where do you want any relationship to"progress" to? Or would it be at best, glorified fuck buddies?

Purse??

How did your next meeting go?! 🙂

If you’ve got small kids and limited childcare maybe this arrangement would suit you

I don't understand your logic here? If it's already tough to arrange childcare, you surely don't want to factor in a 6-7 hour round trip into that!

shes clearly going to this place already and it’s easier to factor in something monthly than someone local who expects to see her every weekend. That’s the logic, she can’t get out much so long distance is better suited to her domestic circumstances

I spent about 5 years seeing a guy in a different country. We saw each other roughly one weekend a month and spent holidays together. It suited me at the time, as I just worked and did evening classes in the week. I would have moved there, had he agreed, but the reason we're not together any more is his indecisiveness.

I think it can work, but LDRs don't work more often than they do. But it may be what works for your life just now, it's something only you can decide.

I couldn’t be bothered with this tbh

It's hard work. But I knew very early on that I would rather be with him and only see him irregularly than be with someone else and see them more often. We had that much of a connection.

@WhatTheFlipToDo we weren't able to go unfortunately. 😢

Oh no! Have you any further plans to see each other?!