Was this odd or not? I'm probably overthinking!

[Overthinkingin2023]

I chat to someone who I now think of as a friend (but who used to kind of be more - over 10 years ago) via text. We don't talk every day but it has been weekly lately.

Anyway, is this weird:

He knew I had a big birthday coming up so during a (text) conversation he asked when it was and I told him it was the following Tuesday (this was the Thursday before). We carried on with general chatting that day but didn't speak after that day until today (not unusual).
Me "hi"
Him "oh hi! Happy Birthday if it's your birthday"
Me "it was Tuesday"

To be honest I thought he'd asked as he was going to wish me happy birthday on the Tuesday...but he didn't. I don't get why he bothered to ask if he wasn't going to wish me happy birthday.

He was never a boyfriend and the thing we had was brief so he didn't know my birthday. Also we don't see each other irl only talk via text message occasionally. He has no gf, lives alone (unsure if thats relevant just giving the facts).
I wanted opinion of others about why he asked & then said happy birthday 4 days late 😊

Yeah I was gonna say, he's a bloke - he probably doesn't care/remember! Happy Birthday for Tues though, I had a big birthday on Weds 😊

I think you're overthinking.

Sometimes things just don't commit to memory.

10 years on, I can't remember the exact date my dad died or my husband left or many other significant dates. I sometimes forget how old I am 🤷🏻‍♀️

I forget my best friend's birthday every year. I could tell you what it is now but, come that date, I won't wake up in the morning and think, "Ooh its X's birthday today." I've wished her happy birthday on the wrong day before.

After 16 years of friendship, I'm less likely to forget now but it still happens.

It's not because I don't care about her.

I wanted opinion of others about why he asked & then said happy birthday 4 days late 😊

He just forgot. Or lost drank of the date.

I don't think thees a more significant reason than that.

You don't sound particularly close. It doesn't mean anything.

Track not drank

He doesn't care. He asked out of politellness, as small talk, not because he was invested in the answer in any way.

Yeah I'm definitely overthinking it 😊 Thanks all!

I'd have looked back through your messages if I thought it was around your birthday and knew we'd discussed it recently. It's like he's trying to seem interested in you, but isn't that much as to make a tiny bit of effort to scroll back.

Yeah I think you've nailed it to be honest.