Family don't like me now because I broke up with my bf

[Alicew00]

My family were really mad with me. They don't know what's up with me because he was such a nice person, in love with me and they enjoyed his company. I said that I wasn't in love with him and I've been abused before I need to be alone. I tried to get councelling while I was with him as he was irritating me, arguing with me because he didn't want to give me any space. I want to be single.

It's the first time I cried since the breakup not because I broke up with him but because they were mad at me. I'm sat here with them but I feel like dying right now. They're going to talk bad about me when I've gone now. And I feel like they don't like me even more. Don't know what I'm supposed to do.

They'll get over it.
Your family aren't very supportive are they?

No, they're not. They were very mean. I'm really upset

Be proud of yourself for maintaining your boundaries, that's what. Let them talk, they're not the one who was with him. Plus it's not actually any of their business.

Have a virtual hug from me.
Don't let them continue to moan at you about this. If anyone brings it up again, shut them down, it's over and it's not up for discussion.
If they like him so much, they can date him.

Sounds like your family might be the reason you've previously ended up in abusive relationships - basically taught you growing up that your feelings and wellbeing don't matter, or that being in any relationship is better than being single? Even of they liked the guy, it's not normal to give you a hard tie over splitting up with someone.

It might be an idea to work on getting space from your family so you can look at the way they treat you overall. If you're living at home, I'd look to move out and live independently.

Well done on ending the relationship.

Everything @category12 said. Well done for having the strength to assert your boundaries.

Thanks : ' ( x

Not respecting your need for space is a big red flag tbh. Well done for recognizing it and drawing a line in the sand.

I absolutely think you did the right thing! Well done for knowing it had to end...I admire you!

Don't do things because your family want you to. Do things because they make you happy.

Maybe go low contact with your family for a while and reassess that dynamic.

You did the right thing. Ignore your family. Sending love and hugs ❤️

Do you feel brave enough to push back?
'You marry him then' would be one possibility, or
'did you stay with someone you didn't love, then?' While looking them and their spouse right in the eyes.

He deserves to be with someone who actually likes him, would be gentler but less satisfying.

Sometimes we take this stuff too seriously- they are allowed opinions about our choices, but we are allowed to laugh at and ignore them.

Imagine being so desperate to be in a couple, that you stay with someone you don't want to be with!

Good for you.

Yes my mum said he'll find someone who'll appreciate him

"Well, good for him, cos he's not right for me."

But your mum doesn't sound like she's got your back, OP, and that's upsetting. You should feel like family are on your side and want to support you. Sorry you don't have that. Do not take their opinions to heart.

I've never felt supported by any of them