Nights out.

[ohdearohdear]

How often do you have nights out (just you and dh/dp) and who arranges it?

Once in a blue moon.

Me.

rarely - not nearly as often as we should

I usually arrange

anyone else??

Once every couple of weeks give or take, usually me who arranges it but DH has been known to arrange a night out as a surprise.

We are part of a babysitting circle, we swap sit with our neighbours and my mum occasionally looks after DS. With all that I think we go out about once a month, I generally organise the babysitting and DH books the restaurant.

ggmm - wow, every couple of weeks. lucky you!!
rm - does your dh book it without prompting, or have you already suggested you go out!?

It's usually me who suggests. But on a couple of occasions when I have had a really hard time at work or been a bit down about something, he will spontaneously go and ask the neighbours son to babysit and arranges the whole thing. I think he feels more comfortable asking him as it is a cash arrangement rather than a favours one ifyswim.

Why are you asking ohdear, has it been a while since you have been out ?

we go out every month or so, but it's always me who suggests if, or vvv stongly hints at it in the hope he might actually suggest something. would be so nice if he actually arrnaged something without being prompted. and yes we've talked about it loads of tiem and he know how how i feel about it, but he still does nothing about it

DH and I have just been talking about this. We are both very busy with work, he has a new job and I've been setting up a new business, both are going well. However we've realised that we've got into a rut, if he's here we just slob in front of the tv - shattered. So we've decided to book a babysitter for a regular Friday night slot - yes it will cost, but our marriage is worth it.

If that is the only problem that you have then I think you just need to keep on doing the arranging and grit your teeth.

I don't mind as I'm a bit of a control freak so I kind of prefer being in charge of the organising. Last Mothers day DH booked us into one of the most expensive and lovely restaurants in town. All well and good but for lunch, with DS aged 1 yr in tow. Thankfully he slept all the way through dinner, phew, but I would have felt more comfortable in somewhere child friendly, but didn't want to say that to DH and spoil his romantic gesture.

rm - unfortunately it's far from the only problem

Just me and DH, without friends or anything? Rarely!

Infact tomorrow night Dh and I are going away for the night on our own, for my birthday, but that is the first time for at least 2-3 years! DH booked it, but I found the place to go to.

BUT we do go out quite a lot together, but normally with other friends too. That would be at leasta couple fo times a month, sometimes more. That can be arranged by either me or DH equally.

Whenever we can but if we do go out we tend to go with friends so don't go out on our own very often we do make the effort to spend quality time together quite a lot though I don't think you always have to go out. This week we have had a candle lit dinner at home and another night we watched a film together.