Platonic love bombing?

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Can love bombing also be platonic? Do you have any experiences of this?

Not using this to call somebody a psychopath, as I think a degree of love bombing can be done by people who are just lonely or clingy types as well.

Just had an aha moment where I realized that over the top attention that happens very quickly makes me uncomfortable. When it's directed at me, I just feel stressed, and even seeing happen between others makes me worry a bit (know it's not up to me to interfere when it's between two adults).

Lots of people seem to think it's a charming start of a friendship or relationship. but I think I associate it too much with behaviour that turn coercive, even though it might not be coercive at this early stage...

Absolutely, people can love bomb in a misguides tempt to win friends or just to get others to like them, it's not limited to romantic/sexual relationships

Yes. I've had this happen a couple of times with new women friends, and DP and I had it happen with a couple.
With the couple it was seriously weird as they did this two pronged attack of her befriending me and he DP, and basically presenting as the most perfect friends we could ever wish for.
We were astounded to meet these people we both had so much in common with (DP and I wouldn't typically choose each others partners partners as friends) and so much fun, so generous, and so admiring of us!
It listened a few months before it started to unravel. Sulky silences if we couldn't go somewhere, little digs about our other friends, until one day it was 'Oh, you must meet (new couple) they're so much fun'.
After which the discard swiftly followed and we were replaced by new couple. By which time we were pretty relieved to be free of the intensity.

My husband hit me a few months ago, he apologised and I haven’t spoke about it since to him. He says he loves me but I don’t see how he can when he hit me so violently, i hold resentment towards him since and don’t love him anymore. I don’t know whether to stay with him and work on it or leave.. (he hasn’t been violent since)..

@Confused908

You need to start your own thread for advice as most people will only read the first post in a thread.

You need to leave. He was violent. You don't love him. Please get yourself to safety. If you stay your feelings for him could come back and the violence could increase and you might stay stuck with him forever.

This happened to me a while back - a new female flatmate became my BFF within a day or two of meeting - I thought she was great but was a little unnerved by the intensity. I really enjoyed her company and we got along like a house on fire until I told her a few months later I couldn’t afford £2k to go to her wedding in South Africa and she dumped me instantly, and became BFFs with another woman who would. I have occasionally seen them at parties over the years and realised that I dodged a bullet as their relationship is very much narcissist and pet/slave… 😥

It absolutely can happen with platonic friends. When i found myself single about 15 years ago I had 2 female friends who started off well and became far too intense . wanting to speak every day, meet up several times a week , getting grumpy when I met other friends or was busy with family. At the time I was keen to make new friends so ignored the red flags. Nowadays, I'm much better at spotting them so would not allow myself to be drawn in.