Unsupportive husband

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I write here desperate for advice as I don’t no where else to turn.
My husband comes across as the perfect husband and dad.
He doesn’t hit me, shout at me, he works hard but he doesn’t support me emotionally. I feel he is emotionally immature.
We went through a rough patch a while ago that could have ruined our marriage but I gave a 2nd chance and tried to help him. He promised at the time he would be there for me more etc but that hasn’t been the case.
I suffered a big loss of a much loved family member not so long ago and my heart was broken. I feel I couldn’t turn to him, he didn’t comfort me or make me feel better. When I was upset 6 months after the passing he actually made a comment of ‘are u still upset’?
I have recently had the anniversary & not a kind or supportive word was passed, not even a phone call to acknowledge it. I am livid but also very upset.
I have basically ignored him since and he hasn’t once asked me what is wrong. I’ve been going upstairs away from him every evening and he is leaving me to it. When I broached it he said I’m making a big deal out of nothing like my feelings are not valid.
Ive got such a turn off him, I can barely look at him. Is that not marriage is about, supporting each other and being there for each other?
It’s crazy as there has been no stand up row but he knows I’m upset and doesn’t seem to care. I don’t know what to do

I bought roses for my sisters birthday but put one letter out on postcode. The address was correct though. The flowers were delivered to post code and not the address. The woman recipient called after the deliverer but she didn't stop. My sister found out who had them via a friend they exchanged emails . She told me what had happened and I said well if she's unwrapped them let her keep them. She said she had not because she new they weren't for her. The recipient only lived five mins away too. I thought my sister would collect them but she did not.She let the woman recipient keep them . She said she'd did this because I'd said she could keep them . I in fact had said allow her to keep them if she'd unwrapped them etc.
I was actually quite hurt by my sister's behaviour and really thought she couldn't be bothered to walk five mins down the road. It would make no sense to spend £30 on a stranger. I was so pleased she knew the woman that had received them by mistake I just naturally thought she go and get said roses . I was a bit insulted. When I explained this to my partner he thought I was making a fuss.

You call him emotionally immature? You are coming across as teenager with their first bf

If you are struggling this much seek therapy

Zombie thread 🧟

He should have supported you when your loved one died, but to be honest, I'm not sure I'd remember the anniversary of an IL's death. And some people prefer not to dwell on death.

It sounds like you want and expect more emotional support on this than he knows how to give. Neither of you is wrong, you just have different expectations.

Im in the same situation right now.