Am I in the wrong?

[Mommycool24]

My partner started work today. I got up at 6am to see him out. He didn't come home until 5.30. Ive been home with our 3 children all day. When he gets home I get him to grab dinner on the way home and I paid for it. He explains he's tired, barely spoke whilst we ate and was almost falling asleep at the table. Didn't really acknowledge children, just said hello, that's it. As soon as he ate the food his friend rang and ask him to go with him to help him with something, he got straight up and went away for an hour, came back and went straight away again to another friends home for a shower. (our shower broken down yesterday) then when he was finished his shower he rang me and asked me was it alright for him to sit at his mates for roughly 45mins-1 hour to sit & have a smoke and talk shit. All I said back to him was that it would be nice to see him at some point this evening and spend some time together as I haven't seen him and he got annoyed at me and said I ruin his day every single day and he doesn't want to listen my shit. Its really upset me. It's just I've been on my own with 3 kids all day and bought us dinner and was looking forward to having some company as he'd be away at 6am in the morning again and I'd be alone all day tomorrow again and see no one until he's home. May I add one of our children has a tummy bug and is really unwell and ive been on my hands and knees scrubbing up vomit & diarrhoea all through the day. I feel very bogged down today. Am I in the wrong for getting annoyed at him?

You'd be better alone as you'd not have this man screaming obscenities at you.

Sounds like you do all the hard work anyway so what does he really bring to the relationship.

He definitely is not a good Dad either

You're very much not in the wrong. He sounds horrendous. He sounds like he's - for whatever reason - decided that he doesn't want to spend any time with you or your family and to verbally abuse you when you try and remind him that he's married and has a family.

I don't know why he's acting like this now, but you should not have to put up with it at all. No one has the right to speak to you like he did.

Was he an involved father with the 1st DC or has he got progressively worse? If its a sudden change, unfortunately, I'd guess he's entangled with someone else.
I hope you have plenty of savings being an unmarried SAHM, because it sounds like he's already got one foot out the door so expect a split whether you want it or not. Time to get your ducks in a row.

Very much so but as years passed it slowly got into a routine of this. It's got a lot worse the past 6ish months. I had a hunch there's maybe someone else involved, no evidence though. I did bring it up to him lastnight and he told me to go and f**k myself and said he was going to his mums house for the night and stormed outside, when he went outside he knocked the kitchen window at me and I looked up and he give me the middle finger, I said nothing and he ended up just sitting outside in his car for about 2 hours and I just went up to bed and I woke up this morning and he was in bed beside me. Yes I already have a couple thousand saved. Not particularly for this reason but I just always have a saving fund incase I ever need it for anything. He's also hid in his Facebook where I can't see who all he's friends with which is strange.

What's your housing situation? I'd be getting rid of him. Can't be doing with being with someone who has absolutely zero respect for you.

Technically it's my house, it's in my name. I've a funny feeling he's involved with someone else. I created a separate thread from this to get opinions on the matter. I think it's coming to me letting him go as it's just seriously disrespectful how he speaks and treats me.