Depressed husband says he wants to end our relationship

[Louise1051]

My husband has suffered from depression for a while, but these last few days he has been having an episode, I have never seen him this bad.

I got angry at him yesterday as he wasn’t going to see a doctor and it’s hard to watch someone suffer and not help themselves.

Now he says he doesn’t love me and we are over. He says he needs someone more compassionate and understanding, this is hard to hear as whilst I got angry yesterday I’m normally really sympathetic. I thought it was in the heat of the moment but no, he says it’s over and has been so cruel and cold towards me. He is my husband, we have just bought our dream house and I’m having a much longed for baby.

What do I do? Do I beg him to change his mind, do I have more self respect and walk out show him that while he can have depression he can’t mistreat me. I feel like I’m in a whirlwind and literally three days ago we are excited and making plans for the baby’s nursary and now everything is over.

Depression or no depression, if you do not call his bluff this time he will do this over and over. You are a grown woman so fair enough if you want to live like that but please think of your unborn child. Children deserve at the very least, stability. I am being totally harsh here but I could not give a shit about his self diagnosed depression. All I see is another woman prepared to sacrifice her happiness for the fear of parenting alone. Spoiler alert, it will be 10 times harder with a man like this unless you very firmly lay your boundary now.