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[hopelessgirl]

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We Didn't live together but were planning it I thought we were happy. He adored me and I him I totally trusted him. Just after Christmas he told me he is not sure about us anymore. I was devastated. He kept in touch with breadcrumbs & then I found out he is seeing someone else already.
Since I found out he has literally cut me off no closure no explanation. Just we don't need to speak anymore.
I am really struggling how someone could change so much. I am doing all the right things no contact no checking social media but it's been 2 months now and I am literally dying inside. I don't know how to pick myself up all I do is work & sleep.
I don't even know why I am writing this I know it's down to me to pick myself up but it's so hard

2 months isn't very long. Don't put pressure on yourself to feel better. What are you doing to be nice to yourself? Allowing yourself your feelings is one thing you could keep in mind. Feeling bad is horrible, but feeling bad about feeling bad is worse.

I meant to say, I'm sorry this happened to you. It happened to me too, it's awful. You will start to feel better eventually, but it's a bit like 'How do I heal a broken leg?' You just put everything in the right place, and then you nurture yourself through a painful healing process. It's rough, it's a pain, and it gets in the way of life, but it does end up in the past after a bit.

I’m sorry - it’s crap it really is. Especially when your ex starts to see someone else. My ex (father of DC) and I have been formally split 12yrs and when he told me he was seeing someone else in the summer I was still upset! I guess it’s normal isn’t it, even for me who knew we were well and truly over as he hurt me so much and I couldn’t go back to a relationship with him after that (he was holding out for years in the hope I’d relent and that’s why he didn’t move on for so long). Different for me as I didn’t want my ex back but I started dating someone myself a few months ago and that helped hugely. Not suggesting you dive into a new relationship if you’re not ready (and doesn’t sound like you are) but maybe worth thinking about dating again when you’re ready, with summer coming. Alternatively maybe a new hobby or a new challenge somehow, new job, volunteer role? Try and keep occupied and remember that you won’t feel like this forever. You’re doing everything right, be kind to yourself and look after yourself