I have a male friend going way back.. we can go for months without speaking.
This past year has been a bit strange. We separated from our partners at similar times and confided in one another. I guess we confided in one another as were both going through similar experiences.
He's dived into relationships one after the other and is now in an on/off volatile relationship since the summer.
I haven't met her but grew uncomfortable with the level of detail (over email)and knowing too much, nor did I like him slagging her off but continuing to see her. Classic says one thing, does another.
He lives away and first, real oddness came before Christmas. I was visiting other friends in his country who live about 3 hours away. He asked me to visit him during my pre- arranged trip to see friends he doesn't know and sulked and was strange when I said no. I'm not there long enough and besides it's rude behaviour to my friends to disappear when I've travelled to see them.
He made no offer to come to us, they asked him for lunch he refused. I had to go to him or nothing.
Didn't speak until about a month ago when an email arrived. Cheery in tone and no mention of his behaviour.
He's back with on/off girlfriend. How's my new house he asked and have I moved back up north yet?
(I've bought somewhere new not far from where we both grew up. )
Meanwhile, I've begun seeing a man. I haven't mentioned him to anyone other then really close friends as we've only recently become more solid, we are six months in now. Its gentle, relaxed and with potential. Finally. I'm happy.
I replied to my friend, wished him well, told him I'm dating and feel it has real potential. That I'm beginning to fall for my new man and that I'm happy.
His response was to block me on WhatsApp. Which we don't really use to communicate and send a brief email reply saying people who say they're happy rarely are. Oh and good luck to my new BF as I'll drive him mad with my flakiness (I'm not flakey, presume this refers to not visiting him)
Wtf. My new BF thinks he has feelings. My friend has never indicated this, been flirty or anything at all, which is why I find it unsettling. Indeed, he has often said he only thinks of me purely platonically and how nice it is not to have that fancying someone pressure...
He's a strange guy but he can be very kind. He struggles I think to keep friends.. not many from our original group keep in touch with him and he lost many acquaintances when his wife left.
Baffling.