Had a long conversation with bf about breaking up or not

[Alicew00]

We nearly broke up and I was not getting his vibes I needed to be on my own. because he said I was making him feel unloved (he's very touchy feely I'm not) and apparently when he asks if I'm ok and I say I'm fine thanks, it's makes him feel like I am telling him to F off. He says he's not a bad person nor will he ever be and he'll always there for me but I told him even the constant jokes is wearing me out. He said just tell him I need a break but then he is going on about moving in this year.. so I don't know how that is going to work. He is able to just chill out sometimes but. Apparently I made him very unloved the past few days

Well the fine thing depends on the tone I guess, and why he's asking but it doesn't sound like you to are very in sync.

What kind of things is he joking about and why don't you like it?

If he isn't getting emotionally what he wants fro you, and if his personality annoys you, sounds like you're better drawing a line under it now before he gives up his home and it gets harder.

He sounds like a manipulative twat.

Also, whoTF does he think he is, to announce he's going to move in with you this year?

I don't know how you can stomach the neediness of constantly badgering you about how unloved he feels, & deliberately misinterpreting your "I'm fine".

You obviously want to break up - so break up.

It should be much easier than this. You just don’t sound compatible.

Take the blinders off, op. He's manipulating you, talking to you in circles, and you're falling for it. It shouldn't be this hard and he clearly doesn't make you happy. End it already and move on with your life.

Yeah I'm so exhausted with it now. I do make effort but it's not enough obviously and Im not allowed a few days to be left alone ugh

Then END IT. Why on earth are you dragging this out? Text him it's over and be done with it if that's what it takes for you to be rid of him.

Just break up. You don't sound compatible.

I think you might feel relieved if you do?

Yeah I feel much more relieved now. Can't take no more

Why have you started a new thread about this? You asked for advice and the vast majority of posters told you he was a dick and to get rid.

Why is it so difficult to dump him? It doesn't need to be a long discussion. "This isn't working for me. I don't want to see you again."

I didn't see the other thread but you don't sound well suited. Just ring him and end things for good. Don't let him move in if you're not feeling it.

It's been weeks since we broke up and he has emailed me so much since then. Some days 30 odd messages telling me he loves me, he doesn't want to lose me, do I hate him? I lead him on, I'm an absolute pile of dog sh**....and so on. I finally got onto my works computer and could block him on that aswell. I couldn't on my phone. Now he has been messaging my family asking me to take him back, and he's having councelling. Am I supposed to feel bad?
We weren't compatible, I didn't feel anything when we kissed and I just grow bored.
He was disrespectful to me 2 weeks before we broke up and I told him many many many times Its over and I don't love him so I don't see why he keeps messaging people.
It's getting ridiculous. I was so close to calling police but I found a way to block him.

@Alicew00 you have clearly done the right thing in ending things, he seems unhinged.
Have you asked him to stop contacting you? (Before you blocked him)
Is he contacting you at work?
I would contact the police if he won’t take no for an answer, is clearly harassing you and contacting your family. It’s not on, and he will know this.

Yes and my sister said she is on his side

On his side?? She thinks you owe him a relationship even though you don’t want to be with him? Why does she think women should sacrifice themselves to what men demand??

Christ how old is he? 15?

She knows I don't love him but feels sorry for him.
I've never felt appreciated I'm probably used to it.

He's 32

Glad you got rid.

Blimey. If you were together for 20 years and then you just woke up one day and were bored I might have some sympathy and understand your sister. But it sounds like it wasn't even that serious a relationship - you hadn't moved in together etc etc. Does your sister think you should stay with a man just because she feels sorry for him?

Ick.

If he keeps hounding you or your family I would seriously consider talking to the police. He had red flags from the beginning and clearly you were not wrong to dump him. Needly controlling twat.

Thank you! I'm glad some people are on my side finally.

Yes and my sister said she is on his side.

She can take him off your hands then.

If he messages you again op speak to the police.

Why can’t you block him on your phone?

It doesn’t matter if your sister is on his side. Make it clear to her that he’s a creepy stalker and you don’t want to see him anymore.

Send him a last message to say that you don’t want him to contact you anymore and the relationship is over. If he tries you will call the police and report him for harassment. Be completely clear that this is what you want.

Tell the silly bitch SHE can date him then.