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Dating when breastfeeding

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Pokyhollow · 27/02/2023 09:32

I’m recently single again after a 4 year relationship.
I’m 40, have 3 DC. Youngest is one and still breastfed. She goes to her dads one day a week, no overnights yet. Other 2 DC are 50/50 with their dad.
I’m lonely and miss having male company but how on earth do I date or meet anyone, given my current circumstances?

OP posts:
ToothyDuck · 27/02/2023 12:35

What are you concerned about exactly? That your littlest DC is still with you a lot?

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Pokyhollow · 27/02/2023 12:38

Yes and that I have no time to myself. Also, if baby is away from me, I’ll have to pump! Explain that to a new guy!

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Watchkeys · 27/02/2023 12:41

Have you ever been single for a long period?

Lampan · 27/02/2023 12:49

I think maybe wait a few months. I imagine it might be a bit off-putting to a new partner for you to be demonstrating how tied up you already are with other priorities. Of course some men might be fine with it, but it might be better to start dating once you can fully focus on the dates, even if only for a few hours/overnight.

Lampan · 27/02/2023 12:50

Online dating is such a shitshow that it’s best not to start of with any avoidable complications!

NowAAT · 27/02/2023 12:51

Recently single? How long?

Eatentoomanyroses · 27/02/2023 12:53

You do coffee/ lunch dates when you’re free. First dates should be brief anyway. Most of them won’t get beyond the first date. If they do and you want to go out on the evening you’ll have to get a sitter for a few hours.

GreyCarpet · 27/02/2023 13:03

I'd concentrate on being single, breastfeeding and parenting tbh

After my relationship with my children's father broke up, I waited a year before I even thought about dating and didn't have anything serious for 10 years.

If your youngest is still bf, that suggests you have a baby/very young child. I'd imagine that would be off-putting to anyone decent before you even get int the bf element of it.

Why does it have to he male company and dating? Can you not see friends?

Moonicorn · 27/02/2023 13:05

Why can’t you stay single for a while? You won’t be breastfeeding for much more than another year or two, can’t you wait that long?

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