Should I visit my grandma 5 years on?

[Theamofm]

Not spoken to grandma for nearly 5 years. Leading up to the fall out I visited her every week with my child who bonded with her. Cutting a long story short, I was getting married, my bridemaids (her grandchildren) caused problems (diva vibes) and didn't end up coming to my wedding let alone be bridesmaids. On the wedding day my grandma was miserable, making comments to guests and muttering stuff during speeches. She also stopped my mum enjoying the day because she wouldn't let her leave her side. I told grandma on the day to go home if she didn't want to be there. Her problem was the bridesmaids not being there but since that day I've never spoken to her. I've never forgiven her for it. My mum's asked me to go and visit my grandma because she doesn't think she has long left and I don't know what to do. I've always said I would only visit her if she reached out to me. I'm conflicted and don't know what is the right thing to do. Any advice would be appreciated.

Go and visit your grandma.

I was expecting for you to say that she had been abusive all of your life or something similar. She behaved badly but in the grand scheme of things it is something relatively minor.

Does your mum know that she wants to see you? If so she should be the bridge between you both.

Go and see her

Life is too short.One day your grandma will be gone and you would give anything just to be able to spend 5 minutes with her again.
Swallow your pride and go.

Ffs visit your Grandmother.

It doesn't sound like she did anything that warranted being cut off like that. Is there more of a backstory you haven't mentioned? I would certainly go see her if that's all that's stopping you.

My goodness - is this real?! You cut all contact with your grandma on the basis of some perceived poor behaviour at your wedding? Not quite sure why it was your grandma's fault that your cousins (?) behaved badly? I can't imagine cutting off a close family relative for such a trivial reason. Is there more to this?

Life really is too short. If she dies before you see her you'll probably regret it in years to come.

And you stopped taking your child to see their great grandmother, with whom they had a good relationship, just for this?

I wish my both Grans were still about Op

You will regret when she is gone

Don't hesitate

Go to see her.

You will regret it if you don't.

I would check how your grandma feels via your mum. She might be rude to you again, you never know.

She hasn’t contacted her granddaughter in all this time either, after putting a downer on her wedding day.

Just because a woman is older doesn’t make her the underdog.

People hear grandma and think sweet little old lady.

Do you feel like you would regret not seeing her if she was to die next week? If so, go and see her.

Personally I wouldn’t, but then I would be very sure I was doing the right thing before cutting someone off so I’d never go back.

Only you know the full situation and how you would feel if she goes having not spoken.

Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face.

Go and see her, she might be willing to make up when you get there. If she's awful, at least you can say you tried.

She behaved badly at your wedding but not so badly, that you can't get over it. I really hope that you can put the past behind you both. But I'd she's not sorry and brings it all up, you can leave.

Go and see her OP. Do the right thing. Draw a line and move on. Ask your Mum to help.

Love and family is all we really have.