It’s over

[Lucy41]

I finally worked up the courage to tell my husband how unhappy his behaviour was making me. His response was if I was scared of his behaviour we should end our relationship straight away. He also said he had financially supported the family etc and so I was in no place to complain. I wanted him to acknowledge his abusive behaviour just something I feel so so sad and lonely and doesn’t help I have no family and didn’t live in the UK.

You don't need to make him agree for you to leave him or end the marriage.

You do not need his permission.

If he is abusive call Women's Aid and ask for their advice and support.

‘He supported the family so you were in no place to complain’……WHAT!!
he thinks as he provides for the family he’s above criticism and can basically do as he chooses, umm no! What an antiquated opinion he has of his position and a partnership in general.

‘I’m not sure where you go next with such an arrogant opinionated man. If he’s not ready to meet you half way, you have more of what you already have, coming. If his way is the only way, and he is not going to compromise or discuss your concerns with you, I suggest have to weigh up your options.

I suspect he’s not going to like what you’ve got to say! - well if you get a chance to say it. Good luck.

his “financial support” does not mean he can treat you however he likes as if you’re his property.

you have worth as your own person and he does not own you.