I'm not sure if I'm expecting too much, but, I find talking to my husband so difficult. He either is clearly zoned out (eyes glazed over) so I feel like he's not listening, or, he reacts so emotionally / strongly, it makes me feel like I wish I hadn't bothered sharing something with him...eg., our DD is having an issue with something, he gets so angry / frustrated on her behalf, it makes both of us (me & DD) wish we hadn't mentioned anything, as now we're dealing with his emotion as well. I'm sure he means well, but it makes me not want to chat as I can't be bothered to deal with his anger on top of the initial thing we'd tried to discuss.
Is this normal? Maybe it's just because we look at things so differently, it's not really the emotion that's bothering me, it's the (vastly) different opinion on how to deal with something. Any advice, or am I being unrealistic in my expectation of our conversations?