How does marriage counselling work

[Remmy123]

How does marriage counselling work if one person is clearly the one that is in the wrong?

thank you

@Bigparrot hugs to you too I am so sorry you are also going through this. Glad the book is helping I am looking forward to reading it.

i thnk i am going to get myself counselling too my self esteem is rock bottom x

The reason that counselling is so important, is that it helps you focus on you, rather than them. You can't change them, but you can change you and your reaction.

I am 18 months ahead of you all, and it has been hell at times, but I can absolutely promise you that there is a way through it.

I name change a lot, because stbxh found a thread on here and confronted me with it one morning (stalking, control etc is part of it), but if you wanted to chat, just pm me.

Going to counselling is not going to work if your husband is abusive.
Its also not advisable.

Look up reactive abuse. Abusers love it.

Look up Lundy Bancroft, Why does he do that.

Go for counselling on your own.

Thank you for your great advice will look those up tomorrow and my new book is arriving tomorrow that was recommended!