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anyone else have unusual sleeping arrangements?

23 replies

littlemissworry · 09/02/2008 20:18

Just wondering. dh and I have two separate beds pushed together, double duvet on each - so technically sleeping separate but next to each other. Is this weird? I'm early to bed and he's late so works well for us and I so need my space in bed to sleep. Still have nooky (early in eve!!!) . PS name change btw!

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aGalChangedHerName · 09/02/2008 20:20

I cosleep with dd2 and DH sleeps on a mattress on the floor,have done this since i had dd1 who is 3.6. Nowt wrong with it imo,need my sleep!!

dinny · 09/02/2008 20:26

omg, your poor dh, Galchangedhername!

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littlemissworry · 09/02/2008 20:30

At least I'm not the only one - do feel a bit freaky!

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madamez · 09/02/2008 20:31

If it works for you, then there's no need to worry. Lots of people have different sleep arrangements - lots of bedmakers advertise double-bed-with-separate-mattress setups for people who like/need different kinds of mattress etc. A fairly frequent feature in women's mags is the 'Hubby and I have separate flats and it keeps our marriage alive' type of thing: I am happily single but if I were ever to have a live-in partner (as opposed to a visiting one) I'd have to have separate mattresses if not separate bedrooms as I really hate sleeping wrapped round someone. And most people don't like to sleep with me because I snore like a b*stard.

Colinfirth · 09/02/2008 20:31

In the lovely olden days some men had to sleep in dressing rooms.

scattyspice · 09/02/2008 20:32

Sounds like a good ides Littlemiss.

I slept with DD on an airbed in the dining room for 12mnths!

CarGirl · 09/02/2008 20:32

we may have to go down the 2 single beds rout to stop dh encroaching on my side plus I need a soft mattress and he needs a firm and those multi mattresses are mega bucks! Will only want a single duvet each though - like they have in the rest of europe!

Blu · 09/02/2008 20:34

Half the time I sleep in the spare room because of DPs snoring and because it's darker - I prefer it, and get a better night's sleep!

Colinfirth · 09/02/2008 20:35

If I had a spare room, I would certainly make DP sleep in it.

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littlemissworry · 09/02/2008 20:37

That's ok then - not quite so strange as i thought! Suppose main thing is that is works for us like you said madamez.

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aGalChangedHerName · 09/02/2008 20:40

Poor DH? Not at all lol. He would rather have a peaceful nights sleep than be next to our dd who is not a great sleeper.

ChirpyGirl · 09/02/2008 20:50

We have a double in our room with a bedside cot but if DH is on an early shift/extra tired he sleeps in the spare room. Also if DD1 wakes in the night he takes her into the spare room to cosleep rather than waking DD2 and I.

onepieceoflollipop · 09/02/2008 20:54

Spare room hey? Now that's a thought
Spare room is supposed to be dd2's nursery/bedroom but she is still in with us, half in a cot and half co-sleeping. With dd1 joining us for a 6am start, and dh snoring and getting up early for work you have just given me an idea.

May well make up the spare room bed and get more creative with sleeping arrangements here as well.

ChirpyGirl · 09/02/2008 20:59

We have 3 bedrooms and the spare room was earmarked for DD2, but I have decided I can't be without it so the 2 girls are going to share a room!
Also helps when he is 'drunk snoring' as i can kick him out of bed without feeling like a cow!

onepieceoflollipop · 09/02/2008 21:01

Same here ChirpyGirl but actually dd1 is keen to share with her little sister and the "spare" room could theoretically become a play room/mummy's retreat or anything really.

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littlemissworry · 09/02/2008 21:01

Looks like I may have started something here!

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Pannacotta · 09/02/2008 21:08

I cant wait to have a spare bedroom - we will when we move.
At the mo DH and I have a kingsize bed and DS2 comes in with us when he wakes, then DS1 often comes in at sparrowfart and wants to snuggle in.
I often feel like I am falling/being edged out of bed and can't wait for the chance to sneak off into the spare room to get some kip and leave the boys to it.
I wouldnt worry littlemissworry...

ChirpyGirl · 09/02/2008 21:11

DD1 is keen to share now as she has had 4 months of 'would you like DD2 to sleep in here one day? Wouldn't that be fun?'

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littlemissworry · 09/02/2008 21:17

Thanks everyone ! Off to my cosy single soon!

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bubbly1973 · 09/02/2008 21:19

me and dh sleep in seperate rooms, i sleep with the baby and there just aint no room for him

but we are happy with this arrangement, and there are no problems in our marriage, but it does sound odd when people hear that he has 'his' room and i have 'mine'

but we are okay with this so dont care what others think

PanicPants · 09/02/2008 21:22

I love it when I can sleep on my own. I always sleep much much better, and it's so peaceful having your own space. That few minutes before turning out the light, when it's just you, noone talking or crying or anything. It's bliss!

Unfortunately dp hates sleeping on his own, so normally only get the chance when he is away.

I have been known to pick a fight around bedtime, in order to justify sending him to the spare room

Shaniece · 09/02/2008 21:50

I love sleeping alone. My DH snores and I am a light sleeper. We have a 3 bed house so its me & DH in one room, DD in her room and DS in his room, but if we had a 4 bed house I would most definately have my own room. We can't afford it ATM.

ChirpyGirl · 09/02/2008 21:51

DH has just fallen asleep on the sofa so I am off to sneak upstairs to my lovely empty bed!

The other good thing is we can 'ahem' 'have relations' in spare room and then I go back to my bed and DD isn't woken up!

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