So, I’m not here to slag my partner off 😂 he’s a wonderful guy in so many ways but he is also very busy and sporty.
We live together and I have a son from a previous relationship who he is good to. We both work full time and I work late one night a week that isn’t the same nights he goes out.
The problem is is that he has a lot of stuff that he does weekly that is basically sports, watching sports and this sometimes combines with the pub. This happens 4 nights a week religiously and he’s usually gone between 2-4 hours and depending on the season will go and watch a game on Saturday during the day. Sometimes he is home for 7pm but 2 nights a week it’s past 10pm and in all honestly I feel quite lonely sometimes.
In the past I’ve liked to go out and see my friends but as I’ve got older I’m not really bothered and just prefer being at home. I share my son 50/50 with his dad but he goes to bed at 8 and I often just feel like I’m waiting for my partner to come back after that and I’m just wasting life more than anything.
When we have argued in the past I have brought it up but tensions were often high and he said I was acting needy but I’m not sure if that’s true but please tell me honestly whether that is the case. My mental health jumps up and down and I know I can over worry about things or jump to conclusions that aren’t true. He’s been given a free ticket to go somewhere tonight and he had said he will take me and my son out tomorrow to make up for it and I’ve said yes but this means (as I’m working from home) I’ll be alone all day except for a few hours with my son tonight (which I love) but then alone until 11 again.
Am I being needy? If not how do I broach the subject without it turning into me being a villain. We are trying for a baby at the moment and he’s agreed he won’t go out as much at that point but I want it to start happening now..