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Which would you pick?

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imsoannoyed · 24/02/2023 00:03

Would you sleep on a mattress with no sheet or your 2 year old with her feet in your face?

BG: House has 3 bedrooms.
Master - DH & I
2nd room - DD1 (she's 2 but has double bed for cosleeping)
3rd room - nursery for DD2 (5 months)

DH has been cosleeping with DD1 since DD2 was born. Recently she's been staying down in her cot, so DH is back in our bedroom.

However, if she's having an off night then I just bring her back into bed with me and DH will go in with DD1.

Tonight he's really pissed me off.

DD1's nappy leaked last night and I hadn't had a chance all day to change the sheets. I actually forgot they needed changing. Bedtime comes around - told DH to put DD1 in our bedroom. DD2 gets ratty before I had a chance to change sheets. I take her into the nursery and do my usual routine and put her to sleep. I go down to do the dishes after dinner and general tidying from the mess this evening and watch love island. I actually forgot again about the sheets. DH is a HCP and on call tonight so I haven't said anything to him about his lack of helping out (even though he's only had two calls which were sorted within minutes).

DH goes up to bed before me in DD2's room. I assumed he would change the sheets (he knows about the leaky nappy - he's the one that told me about it). I just got into bed and realised there's no bedsheet. He hasn't changed anything, not even put a sheet on the mattress!

I'm now sleeping with DD1 in my room who takes up more space than DH for such a tiny person! She's done a 90 degree turn so her feet are in my face - literally.

So, which bed would you sleep in

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3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff · 24/02/2023 00:07

I can't follow.

If you're in bed now I don't understand why you're asking.

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imsoannoyed · 24/02/2023 00:09

Just curious about what other people would do.

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TheShellBeach · 24/02/2023 00:12

imsoannoyed · 24/02/2023 00:09

Just curious about what other people would do.

I would not have an arrangement where adults gave up their beds for toddlers and babies.

3kidswouldfinishanyoneoff · 24/02/2023 00:36

I wouldn't be bothered about the sheet and would just go to sleep.

Eyerollcentral · 24/02/2023 00:46

TheShellBeach · 24/02/2023 00:12

I would not have an arrangement where adults gave up their beds for toddlers and babies.

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Same. Also I would have taken a dirty sheet off the bed immediately after a nappy leaked over it.

CallieQ · 24/02/2023 00:50

I would not have an arrangement where adults gave up their beds for toddlers and babies.

This with bells on!

Sleep in your own beds

BrightSaturn · 24/02/2023 00:51

Some posters on here will never understand or try to understand co sleeping even though it is perfectly natural.

one of you should have done the bed earlier though, probably your husband should have done it when he found it rather than tell you about it.

Pirrin · 24/02/2023 00:54

Toddler feet over no sheet for me. I'd probably move the toddler round I to a better position if they started to stir.

TheShellBeach · 24/02/2023 00:55

BrightSaturn · 24/02/2023 00:51

Some posters on here will never understand or try to understand co sleeping even though it is perfectly natural.

one of you should have done the bed earlier though, probably your husband should have done it when he found it rather than tell you about it.

It isn't natural. It's extremely uncomfortable and the adults never get a good night's sleep.

Eyerollcentral · 24/02/2023 00:56

BrightSaturn · 24/02/2023 00:51

Some posters on here will never understand or try to understand co sleeping even though it is perfectly natural.

one of you should have done the bed earlier though, probably your husband should have done it when he found it rather than tell you about it.

Or perhaps the third option, they don’t like it.

Zanatdy · 24/02/2023 01:08

Sleeping with children is natural and very normal in many parts of the world. It has many benefits and yes if you only ever do it one night when your child is sick then you won’t get much sleep. Otherwise parent adapts and sleeps well knowing their baby / child is safe next to them. My DD came back to my bed age 12 when she had a terrible first period (think blood transfusion x 2) for 6 months as she often felt dizzy at night and wanted that reassurance. Why are so many mumnsetters so annoyed that some people Co-sleep and shock horror can enjoy it. I still missing sleeping with my DD and sometimes share a bed with DS (18) when we stay at my mums. I don’t miss sleeping with him as he was in his own bed much sooner due to large tonsils and lots of snoring!

id have been annoyed he didn’t put a cover on - super lazy

notangelinajolie · 24/02/2023 01:11

Too much bed hopping going on. But you asked a question. I would always go for the child free bed option.

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imsoannoyed · 24/02/2023 07:55

I fell asleep minutes after starting this thread.

I had a better night sleep with my toddler than I do with my DH hahaha. I repositioned her and she slept through till 7! DD2 is still sleeping.

@Eyerollcentral DH took the sheets off but just didn't replace them 🙄

@notangelinajolie definitely too much bed hopping. DH should just sleep with DD1 all the time so I can have the bed to myself now that DD2 is in her own room 🤪

DD1 spending the day with my mum today. I'll finally get round to the sheets as well as other bits that need doing around the house.

Have a good day everyone!

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BrightSaturn · 24/02/2023 11:39

Zanatdy · 24/02/2023 01:08

Sleeping with children is natural and very normal in many parts of the world. It has many benefits and yes if you only ever do it one night when your child is sick then you won’t get much sleep. Otherwise parent adapts and sleeps well knowing their baby / child is safe next to them. My DD came back to my bed age 12 when she had a terrible first period (think blood transfusion x 2) for 6 months as she often felt dizzy at night and wanted that reassurance. Why are so many mumnsetters so annoyed that some people Co-sleep and shock horror can enjoy it. I still missing sleeping with my DD and sometimes share a bed with DS (18) when we stay at my mums. I don’t miss sleeping with him as he was in his own bed much sooner due to large tonsils and lots of snoring!

id have been annoyed he didn’t put a cover on - super lazy

Totally agree! My child is only small but I love the comfort I can give her and I will continue to give her for as long as she needs it. We all still sleep well when we co sleep.

I encourage her to go in her own bed but when she needs me she will always have me to cuddle and be with at night.

Johnisafckface · 24/02/2023 12:18

TheShellBeach · 24/02/2023 00:12

I would not have an arrangement where adults gave up their beds for toddlers and babies.

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This.

5128gap · 24/02/2023 13:32

I think with this sort of bed swapping I'd have a rule where each of you was responsible for rectifying issues occurring on your watch, leaving the bed fresh for whoever had it next. Its horrible having to sort out a bed when all you want is to get in it at night. So in this case you should have changed the sheet. If a nappy leaks while he's in the bed, then he should change it.

Bellybobs · 24/02/2023 16:27

I would just put a sheet in. It takes a minute.

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imsoannoyed · 24/02/2023 16:48

Bellybobs · 24/02/2023 16:27

I would just put a sheet in. It takes a minute.

Yeah I mean I could've and would've done this if DH hadn't already fallen asleep.

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