Partner on bumble?

[mumstressoutmum]

Found out my husband was visiting strip chats online thanks to an email pop up on his phone while he was sitting next to me, and he admitted it but said he didn't 'chat' just watched. Anyway, I just kind of let it go (which is bad enough) but I've had the nagging feeling he has been up to no good. After having our baby, his sex drive with me at least has completely plummeted.
Well I looked through his phone tonight, I just needed to know. I found his search history and the play store history came up as him visiting 'Bumble' twice.
This was last month. Cross referencing our WhatsApp chats shows I was in work while he searched for this (this was the second time that week). He INSISTS it was a pop up he accidentally clicked on that took him to the play store. I just don't know what to believe. I know this can happen but...twice?
Both times while I was not with him?
I confronted him just now and it led to a blazing argument.
I'm so upset. What the hell do I do?
I'm unhappy as it is and I'm still young. Could he be cheating on me? Or at least trying to or thinking of?

Yes, most likely. Would it make a difference now if he actually was? Sounds like the trust is gone regardless.

Probably not. I'm unhappy as is and this is the final nail in the coffin if he has been cheating. Impossible for me to find out really and I'm not sure what to do :/

Do you think you'd be happier if you left him?

Those of us who read these pages a lot see this excuse all the time. It was a pop up. It’s always a pop up isn’t it? He’s lying no doubt. I wouldn’t trust him at all sorry OP

So he's downloading Bumble while you're not around and then deleting it, doesn't look good sorry OP. I've never used Bumble, is there any way to search for his profile? I wonder if there's anyone you know or on here who does use it who could help?

Thank you all for your comments.
Yes doesn't look good... I'm confident he's used it or at least downloaded it with the intent to cheat.
I have no idea how to use these dating apps and not sure if I could just find him on there.

It's been a rough night and morning. I want to ask him to leave and pack his bags but I don't know if I have the strength yet to do this to my son. And financially I'd be screwed.
But I am already unhappy as I said. Yes I'd be happier alone I think.

Yes he’s likely cheating or certainly planning to be. Sorry op. What a prince among men he is. I think some time apart might be a good option, so you can decide what you want to do (preferably make the time apart permanent! The man is a sleaze who is treating you like shit!)

Sorry to say but I think he's building up to cheating if he hasn't done so already. It's always the same lame excuses. If it had been idle curiosity he would have knocked it on the head and thought 'phew! Close shave. I nearly lost everything there. Not risking that again' after being found out previously.

Unfortunately, when they are caught out, and there is no consequence, there is no reason for them not to do it again. I say this from experience sadly.

I think as you are unhappy anyway you’d be better off making plans to call it a day (like me).

I have done this accidentally multiple times. Mumsnet is where bumble ads occasionally show for me. I don’t visit dating sites, I’m married. However, iphone shows if you’ve ever downloaded the app and I haven’t. I’d still need to actually download it.

so has your husband just visited it or downloaded it?

I have accidentally clicked on ads before which have taken me to Playstore, especially if they're ones that pop up if I'm playing a game! Still have to download it though at that point, and you can't really do that by accident! Did he just go to the playtime page or did he download it?

To be fair, Bumble has recently started sending me spam emails and appearing on my social media. I’ve no idea why - I haven’t searched or looked (I’m happily married!) but somehow, it’s there?

He's checked out and is looking elsewhere, if not acting on it

Thanks for all your responses. I could only see that it had been visited on the play store but couldn't tell if it had been downloaded.
I actually went through my own play store history and I have things on there that have popped up from games that I never searched for myself.
He's now angry with me that I went through his phone and tells me I need to work on my trust issues.
I don't know what to think really. I'm almost certain he's not physically cheated. He doesn't really go out with mates and is quite devoted to being a dad and helping out at home.
I've asked him to leave for a week or two so I can have space to think.

He's gaslighting you by making think YOU are the one with the issue. It's not you, it's him.

The trust is gone, don't waste the rest of your life on someone like this.