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sil's whats your like? mines a annoying cow and is pissing me off

46 replies

feelinggutted · 09/02/2008 18:06

shes always been abit of a shit but since ive had dd 5 months shes turned into a serious cow

please tell me im not the only one

she told me yesterday that her son was "winning as he naps in the day as well as sleeps at night"

well i wasnt aware anyone could be winning or losing

wtf

is this a crazy statement or what ?

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lizziemun · 09/02/2008 20:02

I have one, and i can honestly say that the best way to deal with her is to ignore. I don't need a selfish person in my life.

She said some very nasty things to me about how hard it is bringing up 2 children, 3 weeks after i had a missed miscarriage at 10 wks. All because i asked her daughter (8yrs) to stop dragging my dd1 (2yrs) by her arm. I got a mouthful of advice from her on how hard it is to bring up 2 children. This is form a women whose mother has her children Monday night to wednesday morning then Thursday night until Friday morning every week as she works Tuesday's and Thursday's.

And also SIL and BIL also had 5 weeks holiday and at least one weekend a month on holiday without their children. So she has lots of experience with bringing up kids.

So i have decided DH family so he deals with them, lucky for me he not that bothered so we only see them at his parents every 8wks or so .

So turned in a mini rant

But i feel better now .

cmotdibbler · 09/02/2008 21:05

I have two. One is very sweet, and the other is an evil witch.

Maidamess · 09/02/2008 21:09

I have 3.

1 is the sister I never had, and I love her dearly.

2 is a good laugh when I see her, but is a little too 'family' orientated sometimes, can be a goody goody (makes me feel like a harridan)

3 is the type of mum who debates the whys and wherefores of EVERYTHING to do with her children, talks (boasts) about them ad infintum and is perhaps the most boring woman I have ever met.

So 1 out of 3 aint bad!!

electra · 09/02/2008 21:14

Avoid her.

When someone says pathetic things like that it's almost certainly because of their own insecurities. Rise above it (hard I know). When people say stuff like that to me I pretend I haven't heard them and then ignore them after.

Does she actuall have a life?

Fireflyfairy2 · 09/02/2008 21:19

Dh's sister is nice. We've had our differences but I know when the chips are down she would be there for me. She has no children & can't really spend time with us for very long or she cries, but I'm used to it.

My 3 brothers' wives are OK.

Brother 1 - been married for over 20 years & his wife has always been like an older sister. She is a nurse & I trust her completely with my children & call her when they're ill rather than go to a doc

Brother 2 - (been with her 7years) His wife is just OK... tbh the less time spent with her the better.. she is v.opinionated & even though she has no kids she tries to tell us we're bad parents if we don't do things her, very old fashioned, way. She & sil1 don't talk any more...

Brother 3 - (been with her about 12 years) She's not wise. A lazy mare. Doesn't clean, doesn't wash dishes, smells. Actually went to brother 2's wedding with a suit on that she wore to work (when she did work) She had on a hat that her mum wore to her sister's weding & an old brown handbag with biro scribbled all over it. Again, I pass myself with her but we have nothing in common. She doesn't talk to sil1 or sil2.

Our family gatherings are so much fun

lalatele · 09/02/2008 21:38

mine is constantly in competition with me and often wants to see my ds's photos when he was younger to compare him then to her son now...am quite annoyed as her ds seems to be easer as mine and she mentions it quite often...he is such an angel as she says!!! Never mind...u can't compare a 2 year old with a 5 months old can u? wait until he goes through the terible 2 stage!!!

rantinghousewife · 09/02/2008 21:41

My sil is the type of woman who buys me size 16 briefs for Xmas (am a 10) and then when you point out actually, 'I'm a 10' then says 'well you do need room to move.'
I mostly ignore her nowadays.

DforDiva · 09/02/2008 21:48

i only see sil 3 times. will probably 4 times this year, as we have now ds. before we see her xmas,dd`s bday,her bday. she lives only 10min drive away from us.
and she is granny, she is ok, we happy when we see each other, thats it.

nametaken · 09/02/2008 23:31

just smile and say

"you must be very proud"

whenever she brags

bluefox · 10/02/2008 00:09

One of mine is so far up herself its unbelieveable. She constantly lies about her childrens achievements - exam results etc but always gets found out eventually. Cant stand her. Other SIL is fine.

Fimbo · 10/02/2008 00:21

MMMm, dh's sister examined my engagement ring thoroughly to make sure it was "good enough" . She likes to think she is a snob. (she lives near J K Rowling).

She turns up late to everything and everyone is expected to dance to her tune.

She takes over mil's kitchen and uses every available piece of worksurface, kitchen implement, dishes etc and leaves a trail of distruction behind her for everyone else to clean up.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/02/2008 00:37

DH's sisters are cool. Well, one is great, the other is mental, but, okay. His brother's wife is high maintenance, and there has been friction in the past but she's okay now.

All my brothers girlfriends are very lovely.

My MIL is fantastic. I'm very lucky really.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 10/02/2008 01:19

One is lovely, down to earth, funny, warm and loves my baby to bits, I really like her.

One is quite obviously false to me, she seems obsessed with feeding my 6 month old chocolate, sweets and chips as if it's some kind of competition and she would "win" if he enjoyed them (he probably would but doesn't mean he should have them necessarily!)

She shouts in my lo's face that he's a pussy and a big girls blouse if he cries
and constantly implies that I fuss too much about him and I should chill out. (apparently "chilling out" means feeding your baby deep fried items and taking him to watch fireworks 10ft away from where they are being let off at 2 months old)

Oh, and she put chocolate in his mouth when he was 2 days old, on the end of her finger. I still get incredibly annoyed about that now.

I love a good cleansing rant.

mummyfantastico · 10/02/2008 05:18

xh has 2 sisters.
One is lovely, supportive, great with my kids etc etc and when divorce is finalised she will be my sister-out-law instead of plain old friend!
The other is proud of xh for having an affair (i'm not saying she shouldn't be there for her brother, but thinking he's done a good thing is just plain wrong) and is a total screw up in general.

ladytophamhatt · 10/02/2008 07:23

One has been married to my bruv for over 20 yrs an has known me since I was about 8yr old so is more like a older sister/motherfigure to me. She adores my boys and sadi she almost feels like they are her grandchildren. I love her to bits.

The other was hard work, high maintenance and highly strung until a few years ago whe we had a big disscussion about the way we feel about each other. Since then shes been great, shes still abit mad at times but we've come along way since in the last few years. I do wish we were closer though....

Buda · 10/02/2008 07:56

DH is an only child so I don't have any.

MIL is a bit loopy but in a nice way. She is actually DH's step-mother but he doesn't have any other family (his mum died when he was 11 and his dad re-married when he was 23, Dad has since died) - all of MIL's family have adopted us really. MIL doesn't have any children so adores DS and is brilliant with him - she was a reception teacher for years and is still on that wavelength.

sprogger · 10/02/2008 09:49

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saltire · 10/02/2008 18:35

Hmm, well. DB has his girlfriend, who I must admit has mellowed a lot since having their daughter. She is 24 though nad I am 37, so not too much in common. Plus I live hundreds of miles away so never really been able to form any sort of relationship with her.

Then there is BIL's wife. Only one word describes her. Psyhcopath

Then there is DH's youn sister, who is the product of his dads second marriage. She is 21 this year. I ahte her. She is (according to her mother) the best at her job, driving, cooking, you anme it she is better than anyone else. I started this thread about her. She is an annoying person. it is her parents silver wedding anniversary in November and DH called her to say "how about organising a party for them". She replied with "Oh I have asked X (her cousin on her mums side) to do it with me"

onlygirl · 10/02/2008 22:32

i have one sil she is a complete attention seeking cow,she started an argument with me at my wedding reception.

Bellavita · 10/02/2008 22:39

My brothers partner is lovely.

DH's 4 sisters - 3 are pure evil and 1 is nice.

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