Joint parenting without holding a grudge.

[Daddy2girls]

How do you joint parent when the other party only participates or includes you when it suits them?

How do you not hold a grudge when they use access to your kids as a weapon?

Do you play nice until they decides to pull the strings again?

Or is there any solutions?

Is anyone or has anyone else been in the same situation?

Have been separated for nearly a year. . .

In a similar situation. It's getting worse. On year 5 of split now.

Yeah 5?

Thanks for the hope...

I don't get how people have no shame in using their children and can't actually put their children first.

Before I only watched these fabricated situations on Jeremy Kyle.

Now I definitely feel like i am a part of one.

How many children do you have? And has their been any negative impact?

All the best

I will be honest, on the whole I've left things just happen and realised what I cant control, I don't try to.

My children are 9 and 12. I only have these two however they have siblings on their dads side (previous relationship and current relationship).

I wouldn't recommend relinquishing all control though like has crept up on me as he now thinks he can do and say whatever he wants.

The children are okay although my 12 year old has realised how bad our relations our now and I think this upsets her greatly. I'd like to change this if possible.

He makes all the decisions re schooling (he pays and has told me until I pay I have no opinion) and he brings them home when it suits him. He doesn't communicate if they'll be late or back a different day. He tells me when they'll be on holiday (doesn't ask).

I think I need help but don't know where to start.

I hope you find a way.

You could try to set up a parenting plan together or with the help of mediation, or ultimately go to court if you can't come to agreement.