My partner and I have been together for 12 years and I found out he had been messaging someone without my knowledge … apparently this was innocent and ‘nothing was going on’ but he was enjoying chatting to them - the fact I did not know this person (Woman) nor had he ever mentioned them before really upset me. He said this would not happen again.
A year or so later I found out he was … yes you have guessed it, messaging someone else. Again, it was completely innocent and he said he would not do it again.
I was lay in bed last night and had woken up between sleep cycles as you do and I heard him whisper the first woman’s name. Three times! I did not dare to say anything because I would have been accused of being ‘mental’. I would have been in trouble because he was obviously having an affair with her if he had mentioned her name in his sleep. (He wasn’t sleeping … after the third time of naming this woman he coughed, and it wasn’t a sleep cough)
I have spent the day being sick with anxiety. Did this happen, I keep asking myself … yet I know it did. I am overthinking and I dare not mention this to him tonight as I am kind of worried he is looking at a way to get rid of me, but because I am ill he is staying with me out of pity.
Is this sort of suggestive whispering to make me go mad?? Because I can tell you something, it’s working.