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Going from friends to more and it's not working

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cattygorically · 23/02/2023 15:05

I have a very close friend at work who I love dearly. He recently confessed his feelings for me- just last weekend. I was overjoyed as had felt the same way for a little while after coming out a relationship last year but hadn't acted on it. Unfortunately we were meant to meet this week and he was very excited but he is now stuck abroad through unforeseen circumstances so we won't meet face face for another week. And the conversation, usually free flowing, has just dried up. He's not making any effort and I get the impression he's had second thoughts, despite being so excited to see me on Tuesday as we originally planned. I just feel I'm boring him, which I never have done before.

I feel awful. I feel he's lost interest but also I've just thrown our friendship away and I feel such an idiot

Since nothing has happened as such, I don't want to send a message chasing anything, since, really there's nothing to chase. But deep down, I am so so upset our friendship is going down the drain by the minute and I don't know why. Not least of which we work very closely together in the same small team and the dynamics are now going to be very awkward.

Does anyone have any advice? Or did anyone feel this way and it turned out ok?
I won't push anything, that's for sure but equally if he turned around and said he just wants to be friends again I would need some space for a little while I think

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AdamRyan · 23/02/2023 15:11

Maybe he's just really disappointed not to see you. I think I'd drop him a little message saying you are disappointed not to see him this week but looking forward to whatever you have planned (or suggesting you make a plan)

Then if he doesn't reply you know he's a knob. If that's the case,better to find out sooner than later.

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